Is it perfectionism or pursuit of excellence?
Life is an endless report card on accomplishments/appearance
Often accompanied by eating disorders, anxiety and/or depression
Hyperfocus on avoiding failure = toxic perfectionism
Leads to avoiding challenges, procrastination, rigid thinking, and lack of creativity
Inability to differentiate between striving for excellence and perfectionism
Domains of Perfectionism:
Self-oriented - harder on self
Other-oriented - harder on others
Socially-prescribed - outside influences cause the behavior
Greater academic/professional competition
Social Media - elicits social comparison
Even when accomplishing a goal, perfectionists will remain unsatisfied and self-critical
9 Traits of Perfectionists
Think, then act in extremes
Can’t trust others to do task correctly, so they rarely delegate
Demanding standards for self and others
Difficulty meeting deadlines because there is “always something that can be done to make it better.”
Using the word, “should,” a lot
Self-confidence depends on what gets accomplished and how others react to the perfectionist.
Fixation on something messed up, rather than on successes.
Procrastination in order to avoid situations where they think they may not excel
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Sources (in order of appearance)
“Perfectionism.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/perfectionism .
Lombardo, Elizabeth. “9 Signs That You Might Be a Perfectionist.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 18 Nov. 2016, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/better-perfect/201611/9-signs-you-might-be-perfectionist .
“Perfectionism Test.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, www.psychologytoday.com/us/tests/personality/perfectionism-test .