How to Deal With Tragedy & Loss

By: Gabi Badillo,Roselee Bhaskar,Nayana Menon,Jharna Sutaria

How to Deal With Tragedy & Loss

The different paths of grieving


"Going forward doesn’t mean forgetting about the loved one who died. Enjoying life again doesn’t imply that the person is no longer missed. Piecing together your shattered emotions doesn’t mean you, somehow, betray a friend or family member. It simply means that your grief has run its course." (Patricia Johnson).


How to help people grief

You need to be able to help the person get through a hard times, and sometimes it may be a challenge not knowing what to say.

  • Be there to listen
  • Encourage professional help if necessary
  • State specifically how you're able to help
  • Remind your loved one to take time out to rest, and to hold off on any major life decisions
  • Reach out when your friend most misses a loved one

Those are all examples of how to help people, but the most important one is being there to listen. It reassures them that you are there to help them, and to help them get through it

What not to do

"It's unhelpful, to say things like, 'This is God's will,' 'They would not want you to cry,' or 'They are in a better place.'" Kihara reasons, "We cannot presume to know the will of God nor the emotional state of our loved one who is grieving." (Patricia Johnson).

The 5 Stages of Grief

1. Denial "This can't be happening to me!"

2. Anger "Why is this happening? WHY ME? Who is to blame?"

3. Barganing "Make this not happen, in return I will do anything."

4. Depression "I'm too sad to do anything..."

5. Acceptance "I am at peace with what has happened."

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Bibliography

Johnson, Patricia. "Life Challenges." Helping Loved Ones Grieve. N.p., n.d. Web. 23 May 2013