YCMS Counseling through Connections

April Newsletter - 2018

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Optimism - Celebrate Good Times

Optimism is the most powerful mindset you can choose for yourself. It’s empowering. When you are optimistic, you are confident about what is to come in your life and your ability to prevail.

There are really no drawbacks in having a upbeat attitude in life. We all know that being surrounded by people that are optimistic, grateful and see things going wrong as a challenge rather than a tragedy, is a great personal motivator for our own attitude.

"Be positive."

It’s such a simple sentence, but so difficult to put into consistent practice.

With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic, and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth working to develop.

So, where does optimism come from? Is it something we are born with or is it learned? For some lucky individuals, being optimistic comes naturally. The good news is that for most other people, optimism is an attitude that can be learned and practiced.

Without question, optimistic people are a lot more fun to be around. They are genuinely happier, healthier, more attractive people. They have an energetic sparkle that draws everyone to want to be around them. I call this the “Tigger factor.”

If you think back to your childhood days of Winnie the Pooh and his friends Tigger and Eeyore – ask yourself who you would rather spend time around – Tigger or Eeyore? Clearly the answer is Tigger!

After all, Tiggers are wonderful things, plus they bounce and bounce and bounce and bounce… Seriously, Tigger is cheerful and happy and fun. He is a party unto himself. Whereas Eeyore is unhappy, grouchy, and just plain whiny, and there is nothing enjoyable in being around a whiny person. Their negative attitude starts to wear off on you the more you are exposed to it. Fortunately, we are drawn to those people who display the Tigger factor because optimistic people make the good things in life seem more likely.

The best trait of optimists is that they seldom take things personal and generally are very specific to an event. If they experience for example a personal failure, they see it just as a bad day. It’s always a temporary state of being and never something permanent.

The same goes for positive events: positive people don’t make excuses if they succeed in something by feeling embarrassed and saying “oh well, I just got lucky.” They are happy about it and praise what they have achieved. They celebrate each small win.

Optimistic people celebrate good times, while also anticipating an exciting and fulfilling future.

Life can be a life-long celebration. Make it so.

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There is always a reason to smile. Find it.

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Students of the Month for April

The following students were chosen by their teachers for demonstrating the character trait of optimism. Congratulations to Carolyn DeAguilla Altamirano and Dario Argueta Vallecillo, 6th grade; Asia Laforte and Quadir Hill, 7th grade; Ulises Atilano Avila and O'Phasia Burris, 8th grade.
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Sometimes your biggest weakness can become your biggest strength

Take, for example, the story of one 10-year-old boy who decided to study judo despite the fact that he had lost his left arm in a devastating car accident.

The boy began lessons with an old Japanese judo master. The boy was doing well, so he couldn't understand why, after three months of training the master had taught him only one move.

"Sensei," the boy finally said, "Shouldn't I be learning more moves?"

"This is the only move you know, but this is the only move you'll ever need to know," the sensei replied.

Not quite understanding, but believing in his teacher, the boy kept training.

Several months later, the sensei took the boy to his first tournament. Surprising himself, the boy easily won his first two matches. The third match proved to be more difficult, but after some time, his opponent became impatient and charged; the boy deftly used his one move to win the match. Still amazed by his success, the boy was now in the finals.

This time, his opponent was bigger, stronger, and more experienced. For a while, the boy appeared to be overmatched. Concerned that the boy might get hurt, the referee called a time-out. He was about to stop the match when the sensei intervened.

"No," the sensei insisted, "Let him continue."

Soon after the match resumed, his opponent made a critical mistake: he dropped his guard. Instantly, the boy used his move to pin him. The boy had won the match and the tournament. He was the champion.

On the way home, the boy and sensei reviewed every move in each and every match. Then the boy summoned the courage to ask what was really on his mind.

"Sensei, how did I win the tournament with only one move?"

"You won for two reasons," the sensei answered. "First, you've almost mastered one of the most difficult throws in all of judo. And second, the only known defense for that move is for your opponent to grab your left arm."

The boy's biggest weakness had become his biggest strength.

~author unknown

Your ATTITUDE determines your DIRECTION


Every positive THOUGHT propels you in the right DIRECTION

Is Your Glass Half Full?

What’s your outlook on life? Would you consider yourself to be a pretty happy person? Do you take things in stride? When you look at the proverbial glass of water (or diet Mtn Dew!), do you see it as being half full or half empty?

Optimism or pessimism is how you choose to look at the future. Whether you believe the glass is half full or half empty is not just about optimism and pessimism - it's about how you relate to the world and to the people around you.

What I find fascinating is how different people choose to see the same situation in different ways. Here’s a fact, one which I see all around me, people who see the glass as half full tend to be happier.

Which kind of person are you?

Turning Negative Thinking Into Positive Thinking

Is your inner voice positive or negative? What thoughts dominate your mind when you sit down to study?

Positive self talk is very important when it comes to your success in school. If you are always telling yourself that you won’t do well, eventually, you will start to believe that.

It may seem simplistic, but make sure you are thinking positive about what you are studying. Make sure you have confidence that you can get the good grades you want to achieve in your studies. But don’t ever get down on yourself if you get a bad grade. A bad grade (or a good grade) should not define you. Perhaps a not so great grade is sending you a message that you need to try to study a little bit harder. And if you tried as hard as you possibly could, but still did not get the desired grade, you can take pride in the fact that you tried very hard.

Getting an undesirable grade could also mean that instead of continuing with the way you studied, maybe you need to make some changes in your study habits so that you are better able to grasp the material. Never get discouraged though, keep trying, keep making adjustments if needed, and your hard work will pay off.

Here are some examples to help you practice your positive thinking and self talk.

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York Chester Hosts Rising 6th Grade Graduation Class 2025

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York Chester Middle Career Day 2018

Students got a glimpse into their potential future careers.

On Thursday, March 22, York Chester Middle School hosted a Career Day for all eighth grade students.

York Chester welcomed over 41 presenters and a total of 72 volunteers from many industries to learn about their careers. Volunteer work professionals included a NASCAR Xfinity Series driver, a pharmacist, a horse care specialist, a dentist, a nurse, realtors, emergency responders and many more.

It was a fun and exciting day of learning!

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Upcoming Events

Spring Break

March 30 - April 6

All County Band Concert

April 8 - Ashbrook HIgh School

The Schiele Museum of Natural History

April 16 & April 24

Honor Roll Celebration

April 23 at 8 am school auditorium
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