Lost At School
Collaborative Problem Solving , Dr. Ross W. Greene
Collaborative Problem Solving & Collaborative & Proactive Solutions
-is when adults impose their will in response to an expectation that was not met
Example: Joey is distracting his classmates because he doesn't understand an assignment and the teacher says, "Joey, let's talk about it at my desk so we don't disturb your classmates," and Joey refuses to comply, then a Plan A response would be, "Joey, if you don't come up to my desk now, I'll have to send you to the office."
-collaborative problem solving , in which the child and the adult are engaged in a process of resolving a problem or not met expectation in a realistic and mutually satisfactory manner
Plan "B" is the plan we want to try and use as much as possible. The key factor to implement a successful Plan B, by far is the most reliable factor leading people to change, is the relationship they have with the person helping them to change
RELATIONSHIPS ARE KEY!!
-is dropping "low-priority" expectations and focusing on "higher-priority" problems or skills , which will hopefully reduce the likelihood of challenging behaviour.
Example: If a particular student says, "I'm not doing my homework, " and his teacher has already decided that homework isn't a high priority right now given other more pressing issues with the student, then letting the student know they don't have to do the homework is Plan C. Some people see this as "giving in" but that refers to when you start with "Plan A" and end up using "Plan C" because the child made you life miserable.