Teen Dating Violence
By Heesoo, Binish and Zoey
What is Teen Dating Abuse?
Alexandra's Story...
At age 15, Alexandra fell hard for the star football player at her new school. "He bought me flowers. He wrote poems or write notes. We'd go out where I wanted to go. He'd exclude himself from his friends and focus on me." But after a few weeks, her dreamy romance became a real life nightmare. She says she didn't know anyone at school , so she thought he knew what to look out for. But his controlling ways turned into jealous rage, when he saw Alex talking to her new guys friend "A shove here and a push there, and then it would escalate," Alex recalls, "He would throw things and and he tried burning me." She felt ashamed and hid the abuse to her family.
When a school counselor spotted Alex's bruises, she told Alex it would be best if she break off the relationship before she wound up a statistic, paralyzed... even killed. Mr. Star Athlete beat Alex so severely for talking to the counselor that she had to be hospitalized. Eight months after meeting him, she finally broke up with him.
Alex now wants all the other girls in the world to know the causes of being abused by your boyfriend or being controlled by them, she wants all the girls to know that if you are getting abused you must not give up and look for help around you and stop the relationship with the abuser.
Facts
One...
1 out of 3 teenagers admits that they have experienced Teen Dating Abuse
Two...
Females between the ages of 16 and 24 are roughly 3 times more likely than the rest of the population to be abused by an intimate partner.
Three...
Teens who suffer dating abuse are subject to long-term consequences like alcoholism, eating disorders, promiscuity, thoughts of suicide, and violent behavior.
More...
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Jealousy and possessiveness are a sign that the person sees you as a possession. It is the most common early warning sign of abuse.
and more...
Thirty percent of all women who are murdered in this country are killed by their husband or boyfriend.
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The U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics reports that 95% of the reported incidents of assaults in relationships are committed by males.
Consequences
- You can get seriously injured or hurt, you can be hospitalized
- The abuser might intend to kill you
- You might commit suicide
- Your attitude, personality, or thoughts can change
- You can get disorders
- You might live your whole entire life with fear
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Legal Consequences
The victim can experience lots of consequences as said above but the abuser themselves can also experience some consequences. The legal consequences can be..
- Permanent Restraints
- Award of money damages
- Liability for child or spousal support
- Orders regarding child custody and visitation
Additionally, if a court find someone was violent, the court may refer the matter to law enforcement for criminal persecution.
Causes
- Low self-esteem (When the victim has low self-esteem, she may not believe that anyone else will love or spend time with her)
- Inexperience (Lack of experience with relationships)
- Upbringing (Thinks that abusing their partner is normal)
- Peer Pressure (Abuses their partner because of the image they have)
- Immaturity (Not very mature of dealing with relationships)
Solutions....
Some solutions we found were a Live Person's Chat device. This Live Person platform enables counselors to receive both live chats and text messages in the same console, and send back advice securely and in real-time. The website Loveisrespect.org helps teen and young adults, ages 12~14 navigate the spectrum of healthy relationship behaviors.
Some other solutions can be...
- Talk to a friend
- Talk to your counselor
- Try to steer your remote away from TV wrestling
- Talk to your family
- Look for solutions around you
Remember You are NOT ALONE!
Stop the Abuse
- Report the crime to a teacher or adult
- Tell the abuser to stop
- Tell the abuser the causes they will bring if they continue.
- Tell the person who is getting abused the consequences and guve them advice
Bibliography
Definition: "Joyful Heart Foundation."N.p., n.d. Web. 07 May 2013
Alexandra's Story: Alex Christina, "Dangerous liaisons: dating is supposed to be fun ,right? Not if your crush is a control freak. Or worse." Girl's life Apr.-May 2007: 64+. student Resources in Context. Web. 7 May 2013.
Facts: "A Safe Place." Facts about Teen Dating Violence. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 May 2013.
Legal Consequences: "Legal Consequences of Abuse." Legal Consequences of Abuse. N.p., n.d. Web. 29 May 2013.
Causes:"Causes of Violence in Teen Dating." LIVESTRONG.COM. N.p., n.d. Web. 20 May 2013.
Solutions(Live Chat Device): "Live Person Technology Enables 24/7 Live Text Help Line for Break the Cycle and the National Abuse Helpline", PR News wire I Feb, 2012. Infotrac Newsstand. Web. 10 May 2013.
"Stop the violence." Current Health 2, a Weekly Reader publication Feb. 2007: 4. Student Resources in Context. Web. 20 May 2013.