Well in my opinion...
Will I spoil my baby if I pick her up every time she cries?
Honestly I feel like its to a certain extent when it comes to this . This is a problem that I have seen very often that I find parents battling with . But I look at it from a different perspective . Think about it , its actually the babies who don't get responded to that are crying all the time and stuff like that . But the ones who have immediate responsive parents seem to be more chill and don't cry as much . Not saying that you should always be like this but when their infants that's the right thing to do being that their cries are them communicating with you . Now as the older they get you can delay how fast you answer them so they can learn to sooth their self . But it all has to do with timing and how often you do it . Its in your hands how spoiled your child is .