Dating Pressure & Emotional Abuse

Hurtful words become invisible scars

What is it?

  • Dating Pressure: the beliefs about how your life and relationship "should" be going, how your significant other "should" act, etc.
  • Emotional Abuse: regular pattern of verbal offense, threatening, bullying, and constant criticism

Where does it come from?

Dating Pressure

  • Comes from people's own belief system and how things "should" go
  • These limiting beliefs create a feeling of pressure to act a certain way or to do something a certain way

Emotional Abuse

  • The emotional abuser often times have childhood wounds and insecurities they haven't properly dealt with yet, which results in them abusing their significant other
  • The abuser in the relationship didn't learn about healthy coping mechanisms or how to have positive, healthy relationships
  • Their anger, fear, hurt, and powerlessness are used in the form of emotional abuse

What's so significant about it?

1 in 3 young adults (ages 14-20) experienced an abusive or unhealthy relationship. Many people who suffer from unhealthy relationships have experienced short and long term effects that can alter their personality & life caused by dating pressure and emotional abuse. Several of these effects include:

Short Term Effects

  • Poor performance in school
  • Attitude change
  • Put blame on themselves

Long Term Effects

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Emotional trauma
  • Low self-esteem, self value, & personal value
  • Dependency
  • Personality change
  • Aggressiveness
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Warning Signs:

Here are several warning signs of your significant other that you should be aware of to know if you are in an abusive/pressurized relationship:

Dating Pressure:

  • Forces you to do things you're uncomfortable with
  • Refuses to take "No" for an answer
  • Says "If you really loved me you would..."

Emotional Abuse:

  • Quick attachment
  • Frightening temper
  • Kills your self-confidence
  • Blames you for everything
  • Isolates you from your family and friends
  • Gets jealous for no apparent reason
  • Controls you
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What you can do:

Dating Pressure
  • Stand up for yourself & know your rights
  • Talk to significant other about feelings, expectations, & future for relationship
  • Talk to someone outside your situation (ex: counselor)
  • Build self-esteem, confidence, and your identity
  • Find someone who loves you & respects you
  • SAY "NO"

Emotional Abuse

  • Recognize it's happening, but don't feel embarrassed
  • Speak to licensed counselor to rebuild self-esteem
  • Reclaim your power by putting your needs first, set some firm boundaries, and don't engage in their abuse
  • Develop an exit plan (ex: save money, look for a place to live, etc.)
  • Keep some distance between you and your significant other
  • Possibly leave relationship with help of others if necessary
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