FEC Hornet Heroes
January 29th, 2016
Hello FEC Families!!
Spirit Week was fun, and the sun even decided to come out!!
We are starting something new in our newsletter. Each week there will be a surprise guest reader. This first week it was my turn. We thought this would be a fun way for children to listen to stories at home! It's also a great way for you to see the many faces that your child sees every day at school. We hope you and your children enjoy the stories!!
We are able to go outside now so please send your child to school in appropriate outdoor clothing. Thanks!
We welcomed some new staff members to FEC this week. Ms. Laughlin, Ms. Flemington, Mr. Linenberger, and Mr. Galbreath have all started or will start next week, in case you see new faces when you are picking up or dropping off.
Parents as Teachers now has openings!! If you are interested in home visits, play groups, or screenings, please call (573) 590-8050 and let us know! PAT is able to help high needs families as well. Families in need can receive free cribs and diapers, and all families receive free books. PAT is able to visit families with children prenatal to age five. Call for more information!!
Have a wonderful weekend with your families and friends!!
Things to Remember...
February 15th: President's Day (No school)
March 10th: Kindergarten Orientation at the high school:
March 25th - April 1st: Spring Break (no school)
April 11th - 15th: Kindergarten screening (all FEC students will be screened at school and do not need to make an appointment)
May 19th: Last day of school (dismiss 2 hours early)
June 1st - June 28th: Summer School
Conscious Discipline Corner
One of the biggest challenges for parents of infant or toddler-aged children is dealing with an upset child. Think about how you handle an upset child. Do these responses sound familiar: “You’re okay, can you give me a hug?” “Come look over here! Play with this!” “Shhhhush (accompanied by rocking or bouncing).”
Though common, these responses rob the child of the opportunity to express his or her genuine emotion. These are reactive rather than responding statements. “You’re okay, can you give me a hug,” generally stems from the parent’s fear that the child isn’t okay, or that s/he is okay but is going to start wailing. “Come over here” and “Shhhhush” are both attempts to distract the child from his/her upset or pain. To respond to the child in a way that addresses his/her emotion, we must teach him/her how to handle the upset. We can do this by using active calming ourselves, helping the child to calm down and labeling the emotion to build the child’s self-awareness.
Step 1: S.T.A.R. (Smile, Take a breath, And Relax). Actively calm yourself first so you can respond.
Step 2: Wish the child well by continuing to breathe and thinking loving thoughts about the child.
Step 3: Notice, “Your face is going like this (demonstrate the child’s expression). You’re safe, I’m here. Breathe with me.”
Step 4: Label emotion the emotion for the child to build awareness, “You seem sad (angry, upset, frustrated).” Do your best to label the child’s emotion. The child may correct you if you say “sad” and they feel “angry.”
Step 5: “You want ________.” Take a good guess at what the child wanted. Again, they may correct you. If the source of upset is a physical hurt (a fall, bump, etc.) describe what happened, “You were so busy playing that you didn’t see the coffee table until you ran into it.”
Step 6: Commit to keeping them safe: “I’ll keep you safe.”
Step 7: After the first six steps are complete and the child is calm, then you may offer redirection. “Let’s go play with the blocks.”
At first, the child’s upset may increase. This is healthy and occurs because you are allowing the child to feel the anger, upset or other emotion s/he is experiencing. Continue your active calming and move forward with the seven steps above.
As parents, our impulse is to bend over backward to avoid having our children experience any kind of discomfort. However, experiencing their own emotion is necessary and healthy for your children’s development. Be present with your children and help them cope with difficult emotions rather than attempting to shield them. The payoff will come years later when your children are able to handle their own upset about life events, whether they be bigger ones like a death in the family or smaller ones like getting a ding in his/her first car. Whatever the event, you will have taught your children the skills necessary to calm themselves in times of emotional difficulty.
Resource from Consciousdiscipline.com (Dr. Becky Bailey)