*A Lover's Friend*
Yarentzy Magallanes
Dear Marsha D.
I have read your column for years, but I never thought that I would be writing to you. I've tried going to meetings of "Women who love too much" but I'm still hurting, so I thought maybe you could help me. My problem is that the guy I love, Demetrius, doesn't want to be in the same room as me. The more I love the more thou runs. I've tried everything yet nothing I do seems to please him. What should I do, I'm stuck at the corner of should I follow or leave, but either way I won't get what I want. Now i believe people are mocking me for my endless love. Lysander pretends to love me, but i know he doesn't, for he loves Hermia. Oh Hermia, if I where only like her.
Sincerely,
- The Lonely Fish Out Of Water
Lonely Reflection
Helena probably has doubts about going after Demetrius. Looking at her reflection and seeing how its hopeless might make her lose hope little by little.
Jealousy
Seeing Lysander and Hermia together most likely sends hate or jealousy shooting throughout Helena’s body wishing she could have similar to theirs.
Left Out
Helena feels left out of the love trinagle.
Dear Lonely fish out of water,
You problem is common in many women of your generation, but do not fret we will get passed this together. We'll find the right direction; lead you to the right path. There is hope.
Even though you have a passionate love for Demetrius, you must have closure. Chasing after him day after day would start to annoy him and in bet you’re sick and tired of it too. You don't have to ignore him completely but just now and then show him that you care. You might just want to throw your arms and run to him but you must fight the feeling, the love, the intense craving of having him there. You will be glad you did.
You may also want to check up on a therapist. Although it might be time consuming and difficult to pay off I believe it will all be worth it. You will feel comfortable and clean, spilling your guts to the professional. In fact, unlike Demetrius, she or he will listen and give you pointers.
Eventually you will find yourself happier than a duck in a bakery. And if there is no other way to turn you could always be with some other fair man a man who will treat you with respect, a man that acknowledges your beauty inside and out, a man that will do spontaneous things out of the blue. There are plenty of fish in the sea and from what I know, you seem like a strong, independent, industrious lady that could do better off. Good luck and thanks for reading.
Sincerely,
Marsha D.