Learning Coach Corner

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In This Issue:

  • Grief and Loss Guide
  • Re-Registration
  • Spring Family Survey
  • Q&A Sessions
  • Learning Coach Academy (LCA)
  • FAQs
  • Links
  • How To Slides and Smores
  • School Calendar
  • Events for You
  • Tips & Tricks

Grief and Loss Guide

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When a crisis event occurs—in school, in the community or at the national level—it can cause strong and deeply felt reactions in adults and children, especially those who have already experienced crises in the past. Acts of healing such as making drawings, writing letters, attending memorial ceremonies are important for all students. How adults express their emotions will influence the reactions of children and youth. Further, they will react to the trauma and stress based on their past experience and awareness of the current situation. Caregivers and school personnel who know a student well can best predict his or her reactions and behaviors because they have observed the student’s response to stress in the past.


Emotional reactions to death:

Denial/shock – thoughts that this can't be happening or no response at all

Anger - why did this have to happen?

Bargaining - make this go away

Depression - feeling sad or overly quiet

Fear- will this happen to me or someone I love

Physical symptoms - fatigue, stomachache trouble breathing or sleeping

Acceptance - being at peace with what happened


What parents/LC’s can do to help their student:

  • First, ask your student what they know about the situation and determine if there are any misconceptions you may need to clear up.
  • Based on what they already know, try to avoid telling your student too much detail but make sure they understand the truth about the situation.
  • Explain to your student that the emotional reactions to death (above) is a cycle and any of these feelings can come up at any time. But time will help these feelings to become easier to deal with.
  • Remember the importance of maintaining a routine and keeping normal roles and limits as much as possible. Offer choices of activities rather than forcing
  • Utilize community supports such as friends, family, religious organizations, after school programs, etc.
  • encourage opportunities to share and discuss feelings and concerns
  • Use the term "dead" rather than passed away. Try to explain that death means to not breathe or live and help them to understand that the person who died will not come back.
  • Discuss the natural reactions to death (attached) and remind your student that their feelings are normal
  • Understand that after experiencing a death, your student may be reminded of past trauma (if there are any) and may want to talk about previous issues.
  • Remind them to go easy on themselves, what they’re feeling is normal for someone who is grieving.
  • Thank them for reaching out and/or for communicating with you. Remind them to keep communicating with their teachers so they understand their needs and can support them.
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Activities that can help:

  • Expressing feelings through dramatic play
  • Reading student’s books about death and dying
  • Writing or drawing what they saw what they remember about the person they lost or how they feel or what they are worried about
  • Watching a movie with death as a theme and then talk about it


On behalf of all ORVA staff, we are here for you and your families! If you need counseling support services in your local community, please reach out to our student resource coordinator, Anne Farrell anfarrell@oregonva.org. If you need school supports, please reach out to our school psychologist, December Tueller, dtueller@oregonva.org. or our new social worker, Karina Smyth ksmyth@oregonva.org, your counselors, advisors or teachers. Anyone can point you in the right direction for support. As always, if you have an emergency, please dial 911.


Thank you for your care and time with this matter,


December Tueller, your school psychologist 😊

Re-Registration

It's time to let us know your plans for next year! Please click on the link below for instructions on how to re-register for the 2022-2023 school year. It is important that everyone go through the re-registration process. This will let us know if you student is returning, not returning, or undecided which helps us greatly in our planning for the next school year. Please note that we will need a final "returning" or "not returning" by June 16th.

Help Sessions

I will be holding weekly Re-Registration help sessions in Zoom. These sessions will be on Wednesdays and offered at both 10:30 and 4:00. These will be hour-long sessions and you are welcome to pop in any time during those hours for Re-Registration help.


Here are the links to the sessions (these links will stay the same each week):


10:30-11:30am sessions: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81067695392


4:00-5:00pm sessions: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87852842962

Spring Family Survey

Here at ORVA, we want to continue to grow and learn from our family's experiences every year. We hope you will take a few moments of your time to complete this survey.

Q&A Sessions

Throughout the school year, we will be holding weekly Q&A sessions for you. These sessions are held in Newrow and will show up in your Learning Coach account. Simply click on the session to enter. They are optional and you may attend as few or as many as you would like.


Elementary Learning Coach sessions will be at 4:00 on Mondays.


Middle and High School Learning Coach sessions will be at 4:00 on Tuesdays.


These sessions will be open for an hour and you are free to drop in at any time during that hour.

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Learning Coach Academy (LCA)

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Live sessions have ended for first semester. However, we have recorded all of the sessions and they are all linked below. Most of the sessions are only around 15 min. long and are designed to give detailed and targeted info on individual topics.


Please fill out the attendance forms linked below after you complete each level. You will receive a certificate for each Level you complete. Complete all three levels and you will receive a certificate and gift 😊.

Click Here for more information about LCA

You can find links to the recordings here

FAQs

Elementary

Click Here for frequently asked questions regarding Elementary students

Middle and high school

Click Here for frequently asked questions regarding Middle and High School students

Links

How-To Slides and Smores

School Calendar

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Events For You

The 10K "Step Into Summer" is not just for students! Click the button below to sign up!

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Tips & Tricks

It may seem difficult at times to maintain a consistent approach to managing your student's education outside of a typical brick and mortar classroom, but you can do it! Here are some tips to establishing and maintaining expectations.

Help your student get started

Try sitting with your student while they start on their classes or lessons and remove distractions (electronics, toys, etc.). Once your student is actively working, walk away to establish more independence and personal responsibility.

Make sure your student is attending all of their required classes

Print out a weekly schedule from your student's or your Learning Coach account and keep it displayed where it is easily seen. Use an alarm clock to ensure your student is waking up and getting ready in time to attend their first class in the mornings. Attending the required live sessions will help your student feel more a part of their class and help them stay engaged. It is also required for their attendance.

Allow your student to know that you are tracking their attendance and checking their progress


Accountability is key! Most people are more successful when they know someone is holding them accountable.

Help your student set priorities and then stick to them

Examples can be:


  • School work first and then video games, TV, play time, etc.
  • Eating a good breakfast before the school day begins
  • Immediately contacting teacher/advisor when school work becomes a struggle
  • Checking emails multiple times a day
  • Returning voice mails and texts as soon as possible
  • Notifying teacher(s) when classes are missed, watch the recordings, and email teacher summary in a timely manner

Have scheduled break times

Students need time to step away from their screen, stretch, and recharge. Having scheduled break times can help your student have a more productive day.

Have a reward/incentive program

Examples can be:



  • Fun breaks after each class and completed lesson/assignment
  • Allotted amount of time on electronic devices (video games, tablets, TV, etc.) after all classes have been attended and all lessons/assignments have been completed for the day
  • Weekly reward for good attendance and progress throughout the whole week (trip to park, bowling, movie night, play dates, etc.)
  • Monthly, quarterly, and semester rewards for good attendance and progress/grades (party, cash, new game/book, special outing, etc.



Keep in mind that rewards and incentives will only be effective if they are genuinely earned and always given when earned 😊.

Have clearly laid out consequences for negative behavior

Let your student know exactly what will happen if they do not comply with expectations. Perhaps they will temporarily lose an electronic devise or have some other restriction. You know your student best! Be sure to follow through with those consequences. Remember, consistency is very important!

Listen to your student

Allow your student to be honest about how they feel about their school/school work. If they are struggling and/or are not happy with how things are going, trouble shoot together and reach out to your student's advisor for additional support. Encourage your student to be a part of coming up with a solution.

Click on the button below for more information

Tiffany Folsom, Community Engagement Specialist