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Do you have COVID-19 Caution Fatigue?
4 Tips to Protect Yourself and Others
When the pandemic began and lock downs were ordered, many people were energized to do their part and help reduce the spread of COVID-19. But months of isolation and anxiety drained people of their motivation, causing many to become less strict about the guidelines from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), such as masking and physical distancing.
Northwestern Medicine Psychologist Jacqueline K. Gollan, PhD, calls this “caution fatigue.”
“Caution fatigue” is a mental and emotional state. It’s different than physical fatigue as a symptom of depression or COVID-19.
Here are Dr. Gollan’s tips for fighting it.
Cover the Basics
Getting enough sleep, eating healthy and exercising regularly can positively affect your mood. Other mood-boosters:
- Consume less alcohol
- Find ways to reduce stress, such as yoga, meditation and breathing exercises
- If your routine is off, build a new one
Dr. Gollan suggests focusing on the immediate future so that uncertainty about the longer-term outlook doesn’t make you feel hopeless.
Finally, incorporate goals of enjoyment and mastery (GEMS) into your routine. These are things you can work toward that you enjoy doing in the moment and that will also offer some value or sense of accomplishment to you in the future.
Work on Your Emotional Fitness
Keep a journal to list things you are grateful for or to track your mood.
Stay connected with loved ones via a regularly scheduled video chat.
Strengthen your integrity and seek humor. “Laughter is good for all of us,” adds Dr. Gollan.
If you’re feeling depressed or anxious, seek help from a professional. “A lot of people with strong minds are suffering during this time, and talking with a professional can be helpful,” she says.
Put Risks Into Perspective
“It’s hard to stay committed to goals like improving public health by staying home, because they’re so abstract and can often seem to have no effect on you personally,” says Dr. Gollan. “Reframe this thought to acknowledge how your behavior could increase the chance of you or your loved ones getting sick.”
Dr. Gollan explains that it’s important to work against current-moment biases during the pandemic. Avoid the temptation to do something that brings you pleasure in the moment without acknowledging the risk it may bring in the future. In the case of the pandemic, this could mean going to a large group gathering without thinking about how this may affect the spread of COVID-19 down the road.
“It’s hard to assess peril and risk, especially when the risk is invisible, like coronavirus,” she says. “You have to find a balance, which may mean less pleasure in the current moment, but more risk mitigation in the future.”
Dr. Gollan says you can avoid caution fatigue by working against your confirmatory bias — the practice of surrounding yourself with people who agree with you and ignoring views that threaten yours. In the case of the pandemic, your confirmatory bias could mean ignoring the advice of public health experts in favor of something that resonates with you more or that makes you feel better. To avoid this, Dr. Gollan suggests an exercise of generating four additional explanations for a situation to train your mind to see things from multiple perspectives.
Finally, Dr. Gollan warns against falling into “thinking traps,” such as assuming since you haven’t been sick yet that you won’t get sick in the future, or convincing yourself that an outing is necessary when your motivation behind it may just be boredom.
Ditch Desensitizing Media
When you’re constantly inundated with news stories about coronavirus, “you get desensitized to the warnings,” adds Dr. Gollan. “That’s the brain adjusting to stimulation.”
Take breaks from your steady stream of news articles, and make sure you’re following credible sources — Dr. Gollan suggests two to three medical professionals — to avoid overly dramatic news stories that can take a toll on your mental health.
Caution fatigue can put you and others in harm’s way. — Jacqueline K. Gollan, PhD
“Caution fatigue can put you and others in harm’s way,” says Dr. Gollan. “It’s vital that we continue to follow masking, physical distancing and personal hygiene protocols to prevent us from losing the progress we’ve made so far.”
Signs of Depression During the Pandemic
As the pandemic continues to limit our lives, one thing we need to be alert for is depression, in our children as well as ourselves.
Feeling down in this time of cancelled activities and social distancing is unavoidable, and most of us are struggling to stay positive. But depression is more than just feeling sad or having bad days. A child who seems to be stuck in a negative mood — feeling hopeless and not able to enjoy anything — may have depression and may need help to bounce back.
Depression is a disorder that most often begins in adolescence, but it can occur in children as young as preschool age. Kids who have a history of depression are particularly at risk during this stressful time, but upsetting events like the pandemic can also trigger depression in children who haven’t shown any signs of it previously.
Mark Reinecke, PhD, a clinical psychologist, outlines three steps parents should take to guard against depression.
Be aware of the signs of depression
Depression can be easy to miss, especially in teenagers, since adolescents are often moody. But with sadness and irritability widespread during this crisis, the signs can be even easier for family members to overlook. Likewise, kids and teens who are struggling may not recognize their own symptoms for what they are.
Symptoms of depression include:
- Unusual sadness or irritability, persisting even when circumstances change
- Loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed
- Reduced feelings of anticipation
- Changes in weight
- Shifts in sleep patterns
- Harsh self-assessment (“I’m ugly. I’m no good. I’ll never make friends.”)
- Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness
- Thoughts of or attempts at suicide
If several of these symptoms are present for at least two weeks, they can suggest depression. “If you see them, take note,” advises Dr. Reinecke. “If they last, take action.”
With everyone struggling, it can be hard know how to tell the difference between a child who’s just feeling irritable or frustrated and a kid who’s slipping into depression. The watchwords, says Rachel Busman, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, are persistence and severity. “If it’s here today but they’re okay tomorrow, that to me is not a cause for concern,” she explains. “What’s more of a concern is when it persists. You want to be on the lookout for changes in sleep, mood, appetite, and general engagement.”
Help kids feel comfortable talking about feelings
The second thing parents can do, Dr. Reinecke advises, is foster a family environment in which children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.
Make time to sit down and explore how the kids are doing. They may need a little prompting. With so much going on in the world, older kids might worry that their feelings aren’t important, and younger kids might not have the words to explain what they’re feeling. Find a time, and if possible, a place where you aren’t likely to be interrupted. If you get in the habit of checking in with your children, and they know they’ll be listened to without judgment, they’re more likely to let you know what’s going on.
If a child is experiencing feelings of sadness or depression, take some time to talk about why. It’s easy for them to say “the virus,” and stop there. But encouraging your child to be specific can give both of you more insight into what’s happening, and how you can help. For example: Is your child struggling with boredom or from the loss of their regular activities? From disappointment over cancelled events? From feeling isolated from friends? From worries about the future, or fears that they or someone they love might get sick, or even die?
“Very often, depressed children and teens, like adults, have negative thoughts about themselves, their lives, their relationships and their future,” notes Dr. Reinecke. “They feel hopeless, helpless, and discouraged. Listen for these thoughts. Help them to clarify what’s on their mind and how they’re feeling.”
When kids do share, validate their feelings by listening to them without judgment, and without trying to “fix” them. Let them know that you hear them (without agreeing with what they’re saying) and you’re there for them. For example, “I hear that. That sounds really hard. I love you, and I’m sorry you’re feeling so sad.”
Take steps to engage your depressed child
If you’re worried your child is sliding into depression, don’t panic. There are things you can do to help. Encouraging them to make changes in how they’re thinking and how they manage their feelings can help head off serious depression before it gets worse. Start by helping your child:
- Stay active. Encourage kids to engage in activities that will give them a sense of accomplishment, pleasure, fun, or social connection every day. Doing something for others can lift spirits. Activity itself helps protect against (and sometimes treat) depression.
- Keep a sense of perspective. People experiencing depression often magnify problems or screen out positive events and experiences. Help your child avoid exaggerating or obsessing on how bad things are right now. As parents it helps if you model this for your children, by avoiding what clinicians call “catastrophizing” – obsessing over the worst possible outcomes.
- Tolerate uncertainty and ambiguity. These are uncertain times. There are no guarantees about when the pandemic will end, so we can only live with it. Mindfulness practices can help your child accept the uncertainty of the moment. You can help by expressing confidence that they can manage it.
- Challenge negative thoughts. Getting stuck in negative thinking patterns that are distorted or unrealistic can contribute to depression and make painful feelings seem overwhelming. For example, your child may be thinking this will go on forever and they’ll never see their friends again. Help them think through the facts: Realistically, this will not go on forever. So, what are some things they could do to feel more connected with friends in the meantime?
- Make plans. Work together to come up with a plans or activities that will help them feel more engaged. For example: If taking an online dance class would help them get some much-needed exercise, get started by looking up cool classes online and make a project of creating a practice space. Or if they just miss being social, encourage them to start a FaceTime book group, or make Zoom dates to watch a miniseries with friends. The act of making plans, completing fun tasks, and coming up with strategies, can make them feel less helpless and hopeless.
- Make new goals. When you’ve lost something valued in your life, as we all have lately, it helps to find something to replace it. Help your kids make new goals. If holiday trips aren’t looking realistic, what can they focus on for next summer? What new skill can they learn that will be beneficial when this situation is over? What can they do to benefit others?
- Focus on gratitude. Encourage kids to list and reflect each day on things they feel grateful for and individuals they owe thanks. How can they express that gratitude?
How to seek treatment
If your child continues to show symptoms of depression, it’s important to get professional help. Speak with your child’s pediatrician or primary care physician to get a referral for a mental health professional, or contact a mental health professional directly.
Getting teenagers into treatment for depression can take persistence, because they often feel hopeless, and they may have a hard time believing that they can get better. But treatment can really help. There are several different kinds of therapy and medication that have all been proven to be effective for children and adolescents. (Get more information about treatment for depression here.)
Many clinicians have begun seeing patients through telehealth — online or by text or phone — during the pandemic, and therapy through telehealth has been shown to be effective, too.
And if you child is experiencing suicidal thoughts, it’s important to seek emergency care immediately. If you think your child or adolescent is suicidal, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or 911 if there is an emergency. Don’t hesitate—the risk of suicide in children and adolescents is all too real.
In this stressful time, monitoring your own mental well-being is as important as being alert to your children’s needs. With all the competing demands on your time, self-care can seem like a luxury, but it’s not. Your mood affects your whole family, so giving yourself the attention you need — and professional help if you need it, too — is critical to the resilience you need to get through this crisis.
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