Moms Club of Escondido
February 2016 Newsletter
The February calendar is filling up. If you have an event you'd like to add to meetup, please do so. Anyone can 'host' an event. We just ask that you don't schedule something during the same time an event is already posted (i.e. no overlapping).
If you haven't had a chance to get to Macy's yet, pop on over and get your 1/2 off museum pass for the whole month of February. I got mine and was stoked that it came with a $10 off coupon for Macy's! Score.
The board is meeting on 2/26. If you have any questions/concerns/topics to discuss, please email or call me by 2/24.
See everyone soon.
$75.06 to Gently Hugged
$89.94 6 months of meetup.com fees
$200.00 donation to Juniper Elementary School
$100 for new members: Julie B, Julie C, Melissa, Beth
Welcome to Our New Members!
Mark Your Calendar
2/11: Valentine's Day Photos at Kit Carson Park--Sign up for your time slot
2/15 February Birthday Celebration
Happy Birthday to: Rue,, 2/1; Holly, 2/10; Micah, 2/11; Uuseal, 2/13; Troy, 2/14; Joe, 2/18; Chloe B. 2/18; Kathryn, 2/20; Victoria, 2/23; Kira, 2/23
2/24: Birch Aquarium
To RSVP for these and other events this month, go to our Meetup site!
A Special Thank You!
Member Spotlight-Kathryn Osborn
How We Became a Family
I met my husband, Bill, in 2008 while we were crewing for a crazy bicycle race – Race Across America, a nonstop, 3000 mile race across the country from Oceanside to Annapolis, MD. We were NOT riding – just supporting a solo rider. We became friends and, after the race, started cycling together. In 2012, during the prep for our 4th RAAM together, we began dating. He proposed about mile 14 of my 9th marathon and we got married in March 2013.
We had always wanted kids, but it never worked out in our previous marriages. A child was something we were looking forward to but we had several false starts. In March 2014, we first discussed adoption and decided against any medical intervention. I decided that I wanted to be a mother more than I wanted to be pregnant. It took a while to figure out the language of agencies and adoption lawyers and we did lots of research. By August, we had picked a lawyer to work with and started the massive amount of paper work.
In most domestic adoptions, the expectant mother selects the family she wants to raise her child. So first on our list was to prepare a family profile, essentially a 12-page sales booklet about why we’d make good parents – why to choose us. We learned how to use MS Publisher, wrote and rewrote, selected pictures, took new pictures and then had to find a professional printer and figure out what file they needed to get booklets printed. We finally sent off our printed books in September 2014. This made us ‘live’ – meaning a mother would have our profile included in the ones to select from.
Next we needed to complete a Home Study – a detailed review of us and our home to make sure we’d be suitable parents and that our home is safe. This included two background checks, each writing our autobiography, getting a physician’s exam, asking friends to write letters of recommendation, extensive detailing of our income and expenses, online training classes and even obtaining a report from the DMV. And then there were questions to answer (Describe your partner’s personality and strengths. How do you handle problems and conflict in your marriage? Define discipline. Define misbehavior. And many more.). Once we had all paperwork complete, a social worker made 2 trips to check our home (there was a long list of things we had to check off) and interview us, individually and together. We were done by mid-December and the social worker’s report was complete in February 2015.
Then we waited. It was the hardest thing ever. We were expectant parents, but with no due date. We put life on hold thinking it would happen fast, it didn't. Then we started living life again – in June, we bought an RV and planned a trip for July 4th.
We got THE CALL on June 25 - I still have the message saved on my phone. A healthy, young woman near Eugene, OR expecting a baby boy on July 22 had selected us! Bill was in San Jose for work and I called/ texted him throughout his training class as I got new updates. We reviewed her medical records, talked with her on the 27th and made plans to visit her on July 11.
We went on our planned vacation June 28 – July 6 (Monday), spent the remainder of that week scrambling to get the nursery ready and flew to Oregon on July 10 (Friday). We used points for the flights and hotel room but that meant arriving late on Friday and leaving early on Sunday – we had one day to visit. On Saturday, we met the expectant mother and her family. At one point during the conversation they asked us what we were doing the following Saturday. We shrugged, thinking the baby wouldn’t come until the 22nd and probably later. They told us she would be induced that day so we should make plans to be back in town!
We flew home Sunday and made plans to be away an unknown amount of time (we had to find a house/ dog/ horse sitter) and flew back to Oregon on Wednesday. On Wednesday, we took her to her last checkup, met her doctor, met her boyfriend (not the baby's father) and took a tour of hospital with them. We then spent Thursday getting acquainted with baby stores in Eugene and Springfield and on Friday our mothers arrived. That night the expectant mother’s family hosted a BBQ with about 15 of her family members present. It was so special to be able to spend time with them and learn as much as we could of their family – we got stories and pictures that we’ll be able to share with our son.
The next morning we all met at the hospital at 8 am. The four of us (me, Bill and our mothers) were allowed in the room for all but critical points (like insertion of the epidural needle). Early in the day, the nurse asked what the baby would be named. Everyone looked at Bill to announce ‘William Brooks.’ After about 14 hours of labor, where Bill and I were present and involved, Will was born at 10:52 pm – one year and three days after we first contacted our attorney. Bill cut the cord and after the Apgar test, we were whisked away to another room with Will, trailing our mothers. We stripped for skin on skin contact followed by measurements and his first bath. We stayed with Will in the hospital for 2 nights, swapping time in the big hospital bed and the uncomfortable unfolded chair/bed. Even though the ID bands that Will and I wore said “Baby Boy”, we were very happy to see that his birth certificate has his full name on it – we don’t have to change his name as part of the adoption.
After we were discharged, we moved into a rental house for a week while we awaited paperwork to be processed. The first night we didn’t have groceries yet, so we went out to dinner with Will before he was 48 hours old. He went to many places that week: restaurants, grocery stores, walks around U of O and a street fair at a week old!
We were required to wait for several things before leaving Oregon: first for his birthmother to sign to terminate her parental rights, and then for Oregon and California to acknowledge and permit his move. After a week, we decided to drive to Portland so that we’d have a direct flight home and stayed at a hotel there for a few nights. On the 28th we were all ready to fly home (tickets purchased, bags packed), but didn’t have approval from California yet, so had to wait another day. We finally flew home on the 29th and were home with baby Will 11 days after he was born.
A month after his birth, we started working with The San Diego Department of Health & Human Services for post-placement supervision. This started with more forms and then another round of fingerprinting and background checks. Since coming home from Oregon we’ve had two visits by a social worker, checking on Will’s health and his environment.
Will’s birth father was identified on paperwork submitted by his birth mother but our attorney couldn’t find him for his consent to the adoption. Amazingly, the San Diego social worker did find him about five days before Christmas. He has signed paperwork now – phew! But we still have dreams that someone is going to take him from us.
The adoption will not be final until May. It will be finalized in a north San Diego County courtroom; we don’t have to go back to Oregon. We can’t wait until we’ll officially be a forever family! We have and will continue to have communication with both of Will’s birth parents and their families – an open adoption. This is important to us as we want Will to always know his story and the people in it.
January in Photos
Cheesecake Sugar Cookie
1 (17 oz) pouch of sugar cookie mix (found on the cake mix aisle)
1 small (4 oz) box of instant vanilla pudding (not prepared, just the powder)
2 tablespoons brown sugar
1 stick butter, melted
3 teaspoons vanilla extract
2 eggs plus an additional 3 egg yolks
2 (8 oz) packages of cream cheese, at room temp
1/2 cup sour cream
1/2 cup sugar
1 cup toffee bits (found on the chocolate chip aisle)
Preheat oven to 350 degrees
Grease (I use Pam) a 9x13 baking dish.
In a large mixing bowl, combine sugar cookie mix, pudding powder, brown sugar and butter together with a wooden spoon. Add in 1 teaspoon vanilla and one egg. Continue to mix with a spoon.
When mixture starts to form a dough-like consistency, use your hands and press the dough across the bottom of your greased pan.
In another large bowl, use an electric mixer and beat the cream cheese, sour cream, sugar and remaining egg plus egg yolks. Add in remaining 2 teaspoons of vanilla. Beat until smooth and creamy.
Pour your cream cheese mixture down over your crust mixture.
Bake 25 to 30 minutes or until the center is pretty set (it will still be slightly wobbly but mostly set).
Remove from oven and immediately sprinkle your toffee pieces down over the top.
Let the bars cool at least 30 minutes before covering them and sticking them in the fridge for at least 4 hours (or even over-night). Cut into bars and enjoy!
From: www.mixandmatchmama.com (Bachelor Sean's Sister, Shay Shull)
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