Keys to Parenting

Dyllan, Mason, Henley, Hollyn

Slide #1: Authoritative Parenting

Authoritative parenting is the happy medium of all types of parenting. A parent who uses an authoritative approach to parenting is strict and expects obedience from their children, but is still supportive and allows their children to learn from their own mistakes. Due to the fact that authoritative parenting has a demanding but reasonable approach, it is the best style of parenting.

Slide #2 The Different Types of Parenting

There are many different styles of parenting. To prove why authoritative parenting is the best type of parenting it is important to understand the other styles and why they are not as successful. Authoritarian parenting is extremely demanding on the children and also unsupportive. This style of parenting leaves little room for fun and the parents expect the child to know right from wrong and never make mistakes. Permissive parents are supportive yet do not demand anything from their children. Permissive parents are the type of parents who view their children as their friends and do not give consequences for bad behavior. Lastly neglecting parents are unsupportive and undemanding which obviously is extremely damaging for the child.

Slide #3 Problems with Permissive Parenting

Permissive parenting provides children with freedom but fails at providing order or discipline to the children. For this last reason these parents are often viewed as the fun parents, they allow their kids to do whatever they want and may even instigate bad behavior. Children raised in this environment can easily turn into spoiled brats who feel they are entitled to an abundance of things. These children due to the lack of organized discipline are often rebellious and disruptive. The negatives of permissive parenting can be seen in females but is much more prominent in male's where increased permissive parenting leads to both increased frequency and magnitude of disruptive behaviors. These boys often have less developed self regulation than similarly aged girls. Not only does permissive parenting lead to children who act out in large ways but it also yields children who are unable to restrain themselves from acting out.

Slide #4 Problems with Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parenting has often been related to "Tiger" parenting which is an extremely strict, no-nonsense approach. Children of these authoritarian/Tiger parents have strict schedules and little room for fun and silliness in their lives. This has led to kids struggling later in life. Kids of tiger/authoritarian parents have been shown to have on average a 3.3 GPA opposed to the 3.6 GPA of children with authoritative parents ("Children"). There is also an association between strict disciplinary practices and academic dishonesty in college, well after a person is considered a child.

Slide #5 Video

Adam Sandler in "Big Daddy" shows an authoritative parent in action. Sandler takes a silly approach of getting the child to bathe, however the child positively responds to Sandler's demand and finally bathes. Sandler is being supportive to the child by trying to understand his position and persuade him to bathe in a fun way. By dressing up as the child's favorite superhero, Sandler successfully gets the little boy to take a bath.

Slide #6 Authoritarian Parents are Open to New Methods of Discipline

Parents that have busy, stressful days, are likely to send their kid straight into time--out to think about what they have done if they act inappropriate. In fact, 45% of parents with kids aged 2-11 issued a time-out in a single month. Time-outs isolate kids, and they often don't solve anything, leaving the child misguided and abandoned. Instead the parent should focus on a child's emotional needs, use time-outs as a time to help the child regain control with the parents guidance. Problem solving together gives the child ample opportunity to do the right thing and learn from their mistake. Time-outs should be treated like time-ins to give the parent and child an opportunity to fix a problem together, because even if a child is overreacting, something sparked their tantrum, and it is the parent's duty to get to the bottom of that spark. This breed of modern parenting takes traditional parental practices and mixes it with the new, creating the happy medium between authoritative, permissive, and hands off parenting. Most importantly, this type of parent knows that there isn’t a one size fits all in parenting. Parenting is a dynamic relationship that involves balancing out being the role model, friend, and rule enforcer all while attempting to raise their kid based on what they think is best, staying true to their belief.

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