~ Life of Love ~
I have read your column for years, but I never thought that I would be writing to you. I've tried going to meetings of "Women who love too much" but I'm still hurting, so I thought maybe you could help me. My problem is that the guy I love doesn't want to be in the same room with me... It really hurts to know that the man I can't live without doesn't even care if I live... I've tried so hard, every waking second I can't resist thinking about him. But he still doesn't love me. So I need to know, should I continue trying, or just give up? I just don't know what to do with myself, my broken heart is far from healed.
A Crazy Hopeless Romantic.
I would just like to begin by saying that I understand. In all the letters that I have gotten for my column, I've seen many people with the same problem. Having a man like this in your life is common, although not beneficial at all. With the experience I have in this specific topic, I know how I can help you get rid of your problem!
One solution that I belive will do you good is to try a different approach. A reason I think he may feel this way toward you is because you could be trying in the wrong way. He might not be giving you a chance because of how you try talking to him in the first place. Don't try just expressing your feelings once again, get his attention in another way and make sure he knows you're not going to annoy him. It is good because it could give him a new perspective, and he may reason with you instead of the usual ignoring. In contrast, don't get your hopes up. Remember that there's a possibility of him still having unrequited feelings, and it would be devastating to have your hopes let down.
Although that's a helpful idea, you always need to know what you'll do if something doesn't work out. You can try completely blocking him from your life; treat him as he does you. Show him that you don't need him either, and make him feel like he doesn't deserve you. Honestly, he is not the right guy for you if he's giving you all these unbearable feelings while toying with your heart. A wonderful woman like yourself deserves a much better man in your life, with qualities of a gentleman: Treats you with respect, provides for your needs, and makes you feel like nothing less than the most beautiful princess in the world. You'll find your Prince Charming someday. By shutting him out completely, you can forget about him, move on and find someone else. However, such strong feelings don't usually just disappear, these things take time. If you are going to commit to this plan, make sure you keep in mind what you're trying to accomplish. Focus on making yourself happy and forget about him!
I believe that with one of these solutions, I can help you with your love life, or help you move on the better, happier things. Don't forget that there is a much better life with a different person for you. I hope I did everything I can to help. Best of luck to you!