FEC Hornet Heroes
September 16th, 2016
Hello FEC Families!!
We have a field trip to the Apple Orchard coming up soon. Half of our FEC will attend on September 22nd, and half will attend on September 28th. If your child is in two classes, they will have the opportunity to attend twice! Check with your child's teacher if you are unsure with details.
Have an awesome weekend!!
Ms. Forbis, prek teacher, is our guest reader this week!!
Things to Remember...
September 20th: Brown Day
September 21st: Red Day
September 22nd: Yellow Day
September 23rd: Blue Day
September 27th: Green Day
September 28th: Purple Day
September 29th: Black/White Day
October 4th: Orange Day
September 22nd: Apple Orchard trip for Mrs. Knight, Mrs. Poss, and Mrs. Hall's classes
September 26th @ 10:00: PAT group connection
September 28th: Apple Orchard trip for Ms. Forbis, Ms. Wilkerson, and Mrs. Gorsky's classes)
Conscious Discipline Corner
How do I help my child handle disappointment?
Disappointment is a difficult emotion to handle. All parents ultimately want children to be good sportsmen, take responsibility for their actions rather than blaming others, and be able to stand tall after their falls in life (both literal and metaphoric). Here are some essential guidelines to help children with this type of pain:
First, your goal must be to help them deal with the emotion, not “happy them up.” “Happying them up” comes in many forms. It could be a distraction, a promise to buy a toy or taking them out for ice cream. This attempt to take away the pain can lead (in many years) to adults who unconsciously graze through the refrigerator or use shopping sprees to deal with disappointment.
Instead, we can provide empathy to help ease their pain and teach them that they can handle all that life brings to them.
“You seem _____________.” (Put your best guess of the feeling in the blank… disappointed, frustrated, sad, etc.) If you guess their emotion correctly, their body will relax. If you guess incorrectly, they will tense up, pull away or correct you. If this happens, simply try to describe the feeling again.
“You were hoping ______________” or “You wanted____________.” Describe the disappointment or hurt.
“It’s hard when ___________________.” Validate their feelings.
“You can handle it.” Offer assurance.
“Breathe with me.” Take a deep breath together, and then physically connect in some way.
Example: A child does not make a football team.
“You seem disappointed. You were hoping to make the team with your friends. You wanted this more than anything. It’s hard when things turn out differently than you wanted. You can handle this. Let’s take some deep breaths together.” Then hug or hold your child.
I’ve posted a great video on YouTube that explains how empathy helps children take responsibility for their upset in a compassionate, healthy way.