Lior R. Homen - Dhiraj
Male-Only Spaces and The Art Of Fulfilling Your Potential
The Catch-22 Of Men
Men need direction, guidance, containment. In this age, more than any age in history because we live in a fatherless age. The generation of our fathers did not initiate us. They left most of us to our mothers, or to the "mother" country to educate us about life, death, sex, god... Left us but never came back at age 13, or 18, or 25, or 40 to help guide us through the seasons and storms of a men's life, as men in ancient tribes would.
And the catch-22 is that if we admit in public that sometimes we need guidance, a vision, structure in our life, that some times we need powerful men to mentor us - we would be shamed as "not men enough".
Men's Power.
- The power of DOING and ACTION - The power of the WARRIOR.
- The power of KNOWING and HEALING - The power of the MAGICIAN.
- the power of CONNECTING and being EROTIC - the power of the LOVER.
- the power of being CALM and following a VISION - the power of the KING.
And men receive this power through INITIATION and MENTORING - the process of a) recognizing the power, b) learning to access it, and c) learning how to use the power without being overloaded and burned by it - for the man's own good and for the good of all.
Each Man Is Unique.
A man may be initiated in one power, but needs Help in Another
Another may be a scholar, a knowledgeable person that has a knack for helping others that are in need but himself has no goals in life; he is drifting back and forth letting external forces guide him.
Another may be an artist, immensely creative, colorful and skilled with the ladies (and the guys...) but he is prone to periods of depression and drug use.
Regardless of what power they are missing - these men need more power, to become more whole, more balanced. And, In the right environment, each of these man can help to initiate the other man. Men can supplement and can teach other.
Men need a place dedicated to them
Men need a place that helps them FLOWER and GROW
A safe space for men and their issues.
And boy do we men have issues and problems! We can look at them positively as challenges that make us grow and enjoy, but they are more often the former rather than the latter!
- OUR RAGE PROBLEMS
- OUR EMOTIONAL CONSTIPATION
- OUR DEPRESSION
- OUR ADDICTIONS
- OUR ISSUES WITH WOMEN
- OUR TRUST ISSUES WITH MEN AND OUR FEAR OF OTHER MEN'S EROS
- OUR LACK OF VISION AND CONNECTION TO A HIGHER CAUSE AND POWER
- OUR SEXUAL ISSUES
- OUR ISSUES WITH OUR PARENTS AND OUR KIDS
- OUR ISSUES WITH MEANING IN LIFE AND LEGACY
- OUR MASCULINE IDENTITY ISSUES
- OUR NEED FOR FIRM BOUNDARIES AND STRUCTURE AND ITS CONFLICT WITH OUR NEED FOR FREEDOM
- OUR PERSONAL AND GLOBAL TRAUMAS
Why Only Men? Why sometimes we need to meet just men together?
Because we're fucked, initially.
We're fucked so badly with projecting shit on women, that we must detach from them to learn they are not the Devils or the Angels we make them to be.
HONESTLY?
Because most women are also projecting on us. They need to work things out on their own, too.
HONESTLY?
Because who is able love a man and relate to a man like another man can?
HONESTLY?
Because when women are around, we wear armor and masks. When they leave, suddenly the show stops.
All this talking made me thirsty
Want a men's circle? - just scroll to the end. Not yet? Then just two more minutes of reading.
What do we do and learn in a men's circle?
We Act. Without fear, with planning, with assertiveness, strike the sword and cut the Gordic knot.
We Summon. The Warrior. The Magician. The Lover. The King.
We Show Up. Without bullshit. With openness. To connect to our feelings and to express them. To show up for others, to hold space and to give feedback.
We Connect. To nature. To forces beyond us. To our bodies. To each other.
We Claim. Our place in life. Our vision. The connection with what one would call "god" or another would call "the higher self".
We Celebrate. We enjoy life and the challenges it brings, we give thanks, we have fun!
I can go on
But fuck negativity and dark news for one second. I'm a part of a circle of men. We organize national men's gatherings in Israel. Though some of them are my friends, they are not my "buddies". They are my brothers to the journey, my Familia. And being together with them is fun, it's enriching, it's a challenge, it makes me more successful in all walks of life, and this is the legacy that I want to pass on.
Lior Homen - Awakened Man Circle
I'm 41 and I've mentored men since 2005. I have led and organized men's circles and gatherings in Israel, both my own circle and of the national NGO for male empowerment (shiva.org.il). I was trained in martial arts, focusing, Buddhism, shamanism and Tantra. I have led workshops for years in Israel, including Tantra workshops (for men and women) and fight club (yes, like the movie). I like sailing, nature - both wild and calm - and music.
But its not about me. It's about the magic that happened for eons uncounted when mature men met together. I'm just the enabler of this magic, and although I'd like to think I'm damn good at what I do, it's bigger than me or any one person, and that's what we always yearn to be part of as men: something bigger than us, where we have a place to grow, to flower and to show our unique self.
So, enough words for now. Be a man of action.
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And, like my favorite neighborhood restaurant owner used to say: "Tell me if was bad, and tell your friends if was good!" - please pass the word...
Sincerely,
Lior R. Homen (Dhiraj)
Email: lior@rebelz.co.il
Website: liorrhomen.com
Phone: +97252505650
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