News From The Middle School Counselor - Mrs. Tuchi

The 5 Most Dangerous Apps

It is time to read up on the trendy new social media apps are using. Befriending your child on Facebook is now just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to online safety.

Tuchi Talks - Moral Dilemmas

For two weeks in a row the 7th and 8th grade class have been having interesting discussions about dilemmas we have been faced with or might be faced with. Many of the students didn't really know what a dilemma was. Once it was defined, they all agreed that they face dilemmas on a daily basis. Some easy to solve, others not so much. These were two situations that we discussed:

1. After football practice, Oscar was the last one in the locker room. As he was getting ready to leave, he found $200 in a money clip on the bench. He didn't know whose money it was and thought about whether he should keep it? Finders Keepers???

2. Helping The Bully: There is a kid at school who is a "bully". He often teases and picks on other kids. He has never approached you, but he has hurt and embarrassed some of your friends. A you are walking home from school, you see him crash on his bike. He is in obvious pain from a sprained ankle and wrist. His bike has been damaged and his school work is scattered all over. You live in his neighborhood and you know his house is still a 1/2 a mile away. Do you: a. go over to ask him if he is alright and offer help? or b. pretend you didn't see anything and keep walking?

Getting Along: Parents and Adolescents

Being the parent of an adolescent is one of the most challenging jobs ever. The job's just too relentless, too thankless, too hard. We ask ourselves: What happened to the sweet child who used to love spending time with me? Who is this moody person who sometimes seems to resent my very existence but still wants a ride to her friend's party? Why is it so hard to get along?

The following are some suggestions to make this time a more peaceful one.

  • Peaceful conflict resolution. It is important that young people learn to resolve conflict peacefully and we play a key role in teaching them.
  • Family support. Make a special effort to show your love for your adolescent children -without expecting anything in return. Spend time together.
  • Positive family communication. Let your children know that you're always available to talk. When they talk, really listen. Ask their opinions.
  • Family boundaries. Set ground rules that everyone can uphold. Recognize that we all need alone time. Keep a calendar with everyone's schedule noted on it.
  • Other adult relationships. Nurture relationships with other adults.
  • High expectations. Tell them that every relationship has its highs and lows, but everyone is expected to make an effort to work through conflict. Be clear what your expectations are. Hold them accountable for their actions, but allow room for mistakes. Set limits. Applaud your children's accomplishments.

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