Social-Emotional Learning Support
Using RULER at Home - Yale Center of Emotional Intelligence RULER Program
What is RULER and How Can We Use it at Home?
What is RULER?
- RULER is a Research-based program created by the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence
- RULER is a program used to help students, families, and educators build emotional intelligence
- RULER is an acronym used to remember the different aspects of emotional intelligence. RULER stands for:
- Recognizing emotions in self and others
- Understanding the causes and consequences of emotions
- Labeling emotions accurately
- Expressing emotions appropriately
- Regulating emotions effectively
Why do we use it at school?
- Research has shown many benefits of the RULER curriculum including:
- Students using RULER have better academic performance
- RULER increases emotional intelligence and social skills
- Decreases anxiety and depression
- Improves school climate
- Students using RULER are less likely to bully other students
- Students using RULER have better leadership skills and attention
- Teachers have better relationships with students, less burnout, better relationships with administrators, and are more positive about teaching
The Anchor Tools of RULER and How to Use Them at Home
- The Charter helps enhance school climate and community well-being through establishing common goals and a shared vision.
- It is a document created by the community (the classroom or the family)- everyone should be part of the process.
- The Charter clearly and specifically outlines what is needed to build a supportive and productive learning environment.
- The Charter fosters a sense of shared accountability for behaviors and reduces unkind behaviors.
How to Use The Charter at Home:
- Create a family charter of shared ideas for how everyone will be treated at home.
- The family charter should answer questions such as:
- How do you want to feel at home?
- What behaviors help make those feelings? What can you do each day to make sure that everyone experiences those feelings? Be specific!
- How should we prevent and manage unwanted feelings/conflict?
- Revisit the charter regularly and use it to reflect- for example, “What have we done to appreciate each other this week?”
- Add to the charter as needed.
- The Charter should be signed by everyone and displayed in a visible area.
- Here is a template to help you create your own family charter
The Mood Meter
- The Mood Meter helps develop emotional awareness through recognition and communication of feelings.
- It is a color-coded chart used to graph feelings based on energy and pleasantness levels.
- The Mood Meter helps families and educators know how to best meet students’ needs.
- Post a mood meter in your home in a visible area. Make your own or use these mood meter templates
- Use a nametag, special magnet, photo, or picture to represent each family member- check-in throughout the day (morning, after school/work, bedtime) and move your image around depending on your mood.
- Ask questions: Where are you on the mood meter? What caused you to feel that way? How can you stay there or move to a different quadrant? What is that emotion called? How can I help you move to the green?
- Talk about how to prevent or reduce red and blue feelings and how to initiate, maintain, and enhance yellow and green feelings.
- While some emotions may be uncomfortable, remember, there are no ‘bad’ emotions, all feelings are ok!
- Keep a journal: Use different colors for different moods. Use the journal to understand what triggers different feelings. *There’s a mood meter app to help track your mood*
- Plot characters in a book on the Mood Meter: where are they on the Mood Meter? Why? How can they stay or move to a different quadrant?
- Come up with a song that represents each quadrant and play a song to express or generate different emotions.
- Helps students handle strong emotions so that they can make better decisions
- It is a brief ‘step-back’ from the situation
- Teaches students to pause and think before acting and consider how their ‘best self’ would react in the situation
- Know the Meta-Moment Steps: Knowing the steps will help you assist your child during triggering events
- Step 1: Something happens- There is a triggering event that causes an unpleasant feeling
- Step 2: Sense- How are you feeling? How does your body feel?
- Step 3: Stop- Before reacting, pause for a second to assess what is happening.
- Step 4: See your best self- Visualize your best self, use positive self-talk and visioning
- Step 5: Strategize- What would your best self do in this situation?
- Step 6: Succeed!- Reflect on the successful result, what made it successful? How can you use this knowledge next time you are triggered?
- Model the steps yourself when YOU are triggered.
- Practice breathing exercises and positive self-talk BEFORE a triggering event occurs so that you know exactly what to do in the moment
- Post a reminder of the steps in a visible spot. Here is a poster to help