Self-Nurturing a Child Part
In the Healing Room
Module Ten - 60 Minutes
Self-Nurturing a Child Part
In your exploration of your inner system, you have found an exiled child part who needs sustained and reliable nurturing from your Self. This module provides an experience of doing this and instructions for repeated & ongoing connection and nurturing.
First, find cards 3A & 3B in the Self-Therapy Cards. These two cards summarize what happens in this module.
Instructions
How close are you to them in that image? 10 feet, 5, sitting next to, hugging? See if there is anything keeping you from being close to the part, hugging, having your arm around them. Sometimes there are concerned parts, or protectors interfering, sometimes the child part shies away.
If there are protectors or concerned parts, acknowledge them and hear their concerns. Reassure them if you can, and get them to give you space to be connected with this child part.
If the child part itself shies away, allow it time and space while you hold your ground and let it know you care and want to help. How do you feel toward this part? Hopefully 8C's, especially compassion. If not there are additional protectors around. If so, allow that compassion to flow from your heart to the child part. It is positive healing energy, called Self-energy.
You don't have t do anything and the part doesn't need to do anything. Self-energy is inherently healing. Breathe. Let the part know all of this.
Imagine the energy flowing from your heart is like a warm fire and it radiates healing energy like heat in all directions. Just be with the part.
Enhancing
Notice in your body if you can feel where this part lives, and if at the same time you also feel warmth in your heart.
Read the book, You're Here for a Reason as though you are reading it to the part. It is a very positive and healing message.
Find some resources you think can be helpful for this part.
Another Cute Book
Read it together.
Draw the Part
Do any of the exercises you have learned as though you are sharing and teaching it to the part.
Chakras
Look in any of the books on Chakras and notice if this part is connected with any of the chakras, based on where it is in your body or it's particular function or behavior. Use the chakra stones and Reiki healing approaches to support and heal this part.
EFT
Do the module on EFT with this part as the focus.
Take Your Time/Repeat
Journal and/or Draw What You Discover
Keep scratch paper, writing pads, journals, and/or sketch pads to make drawings and write notes about your Healing Room experience. Take a moment at any time during your Modules, or at the end to do so.
Read On
Feel free to read more in any of the books referenced in your modules. Specific excerpts have been identified for quick reference and easy digestion within modules, but you are welcome to spend more time in these books to expand your knowledge and increase your understanding. Schedule additional time in your Healing Room to use the resources in whatever way makes sense to you.
Alternating Bilateral Stimulation
Remember, The Healing Room is set up with a stereo system that can provide audible Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS) which is a component of EMDR therapy (Eye-Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). The unique Alternating Bilateral Stimulation sample played continuously in The Healing Room is called Ocean Crossover and mimics ocean waves moving back and forth across the room at a gentle low volume in the background. It has a relaxing effect and supports the neural integration of new perspectives and healing of negatively charged memories, particularly when it is paired with specific tasks.
Having the ABS playing at a volume loud enough to hear it, but low enough that it seems to fade into the background while you learn these skills, is optimal.
Approved Consultant in IFS & EMDR: individual and group consultation via Zoom.