Celebrating 20 Years at Cold Spring
Are our kids prepared?
I subscribe to a blog by a gentleman named Tim Elmore who runs an organization called Growing Leaders. He often writes engaging articles about what we can do as parents to help prepare our kids for life. I liked one of his recent blogs so much that I thought I'd share it with you. Hopefully you will find it as worthwhile as I did.
"Growing Leaders," by Tim Elmore:
Over the years, I’ve seen lots of changes in both high school and college sports. Better equipment, stronger pads and helmets, even better rules to foster sportsmanship among the players. But in my opinion, the last move made in Wisconsin is a well-intended mistake.
The Wisconsin Interscholastic Athletic Association sent out a message (really a reminder of an existing rule they created) that certain chants are officially banned at games. Now, on the surface, this rule may sound logical—such as excluding off-color remarks or profanity. But this ruling goes far beyond inappropriate language. The ban prevents chants like:
- “Air Ball.”
- “You Can’t Do That.”
- “We Can’t Hear You.”
Why has the WIAA officially banned such words from the fans? Well, it might hurt a player’s feelings. They’re called “infractions” by the WIAA. The fans are not even allowed to sing the popular song, “Na Na Hey Hey Kiss Him Goodbye” song.
Why I Don’t Agree
Those of you who know me understand that I am for building empathy in students. I am for sportsmanship, and I am anti-bullying. But we need to take measures to cultivate the right habits and attitudes in students today, and I just don’t think “outside in” measures like this work in sports. In fact, I think they have the opposite effect on kids.
Whenever we solve kids' problems by getting other people to do it for them, it simply weakens their resolve. They become conditioned to look for rules from the outside to make life better. It actually fosters entitlement. Kids eventually find themselves saying, “We need a new policy,” or “It’s the school’s fault that I don’t have good self-esteem,” or “I deserve a reward, since I’m a victim.”
In the end, it's one of the huge mistakes we make with kids...
We prepare the path for the child, instead of the child for the path.
For me, sports were the greatest component of my life that toughened me up and made me ready for a career. Sometimes, we lost (actually lots of times). At times, I got injured. Sometimes, I struck out. And still other times, opposing teams taunted me — or my entire team — when I made an error or committed a foul. In that era, however, it actually gave me greater resolve to come back and do it right the next time. I now believe that those tough seasons in athletics conditioned me to be resilient.
Today, I am concerned we’ve cultivated such a fragile generation of kids that they will need special rules on the job, or special favors or personal days, or special perks because they are… well, special. This is not a good thing.
Roll Back the Tape
If I was a coach in Wisconsin and heard those banned chants from the crowd during an away game in a gym, I would meet with my players afterward and teach them the right way to respond to such chants:
- Reflect – What can we learn from this?
- Resolve – Let’s decide we won’t let it happen again.
- Resilience – Let’s bounce back and succeed.
The WIAA gave no indication it intends to change the rules, but state representative Dale Kooyenga — a former basketball player in the system — wrote the association a letter, urging it to do so. The letter is logical and heartfelt, and the best line of his letter, in my opinion, was, “If you think a high school student section is rough, try playing basketball on a playground on the south side of Chicago.”
Let’s go build some future adults who are ready for the real world.
Important Dates for February
February 2nd: Spelling Bee @ 9:00AM (Grades 4, 5 & 6)
February 4th: No School for Students (Staff Development)
February 5th: No School for Students (Staff Development)
February 15th: No School for Students (Presidents Day)
February 16th: Sound of Science Assembly @ 9:00AM
February 22nd: Town Hall @ 2:15PM (Wear CS Shirts)
February 22nd - February 29th: Sixth Grade Assessments