Counselor Connection

Mr. Schibley

Fourth Grade Anti-Bullying

The fourth grade students district wide are in the process of concluding their lessons regarding bullying. The fourth grade students have learned that bullying is when a stronger more powerfull person hurts a weaker person on pupose and repeatedly. In addition, the fourth grade learned that bullying can be physical, verbal, nonverbal, cyber, and relational in nature.

In the unit, the sudents learned how bullies gain power through (F.A.T.) fear, attention, and things. They were also provided insight regarding how to starve a bully through being confident through eye contact, assertive voice, and body posture. The students were able to practice several different strategies such as: coaching one self, avoiding the hooks, responding and moving on, adding a chuckle, out crazy the bully, and to leave and get help.

Finally, the students were encouargaed to be and "upstander" and to help victims of bullying by being a support system and when they see something, to say something, to stop something.

Second Grade Kelso's Choices

Currently, the second grade students district wide are learning about Kelso' Choices. Kelso's Choices is a program concerned with differentiating between big and small problems, paying attention to internal emotions realted to big or small problems, and then having a plan to manage the problem.

Over the course of the next six weeks, the students will be transported to Willow Pond where they will learn about big problems, small problems, and and solutions to each with the help of Kelso, his friend Lily, and a cast of other pond animals.

As the month of October progresses please talk to your students that are in second grade, or in the grades aboev regarding Kelso. They should remember the nine solutions to small problems, and the one solution for big problems.

Parent Teacher Conferences

Parent and teacher conferences will be held on October 7 and October 15 from 4:45 until 7:30. The parent teacher conference is a time to check in with your child's teacher regarding their progress, and to develop relationship a with your child's teacher as you both work to support your child. The time provided is short, so the following are some suggestions to make the most of your time.

1. Chek your child's progress on Power School. Having a sense of your child's grades can eliminate any surprises at conference night and can provide you with questions of how you can best support your child and teacher's efforts.

2. If there are concerns, collaboratively look for solutions. You are, by far, the teacher's best resource concerning how to best motivate and reach your child. Provide the teacher with ideas that have worked for you. Remember this is a partenership and your participation is necessary to support the educatinal process.

3. Ask the most important questions you have first. Since the is limited time, 15 minutes for most conferences, spend the time wisely discussing the most pressing issues first.

4. Ask about anything you do not understand. For example, education is full of acronyms (TBT, I/E, PBIS etc.), so if there is language and jargon that you are unfamiliar with, ask the teacher to clarify.

5. Specifically ask what you can do to support your child at home. When you leave the conference you should have a good idea of your child's current progress, strengths, and areas that are in need of improvement. As a partner in the educational process, the work that you carry through at home is crucial to the success of your child.

6. After the confernece, talk to your child about the conference. Make sure to include the positive points of the meeting, areas that are of concern, and any plans that were developed.

7. Since conferences are held in October and then again in the month of February, make sure that you follow up with your child's teacher regarding progress and plans that may have been developed.

Red Ribbon Week

Red Ribbon Week will be celebrated nationally from October 23 to October 31. At Drake Elementary Red Ribbon Week will be celebrated during the week of October 26-30.

Red Ribbon was established to commemorate Enrique (Kiki) Camarena. Enrique was a DEA agent who fought hard to rid our world of illegal and dangerous drugs.

Please look in your child's planner for the Red Ribbon Week spirit days. During the week of Red Ribbon Week, there will be spirit days to celebrate healthy life style choices that are safe for our minds and bodies.

Monday: "Red Out Drugs" Wear Red to kick off Red Ribbon Week.

Tuesday:"Team Up Against Drugs" Wear Professional, College, or School Athletic Apparel

Wednesday:"Be a Jean-ius and be Drug Free" Wear jeans

Thursday:"Be Super! Drug Free! Wear Drake Reading Shirts

Friday:"Drugs are No Treat" Wear Halloween Costumes"

Small Group Counseling Offerings for October, November, and December

Upstander Training

Study Skills

Friendship Skills


In the sixth grade classes at Drake and Whitney, the students are being exposed to the connection of school and how it relates to future education and later employment. The classes have or will take part in the Game of Life presented by Lorain County Community College. In additon, the sixth graders will complete an interest inventory using the Career Game and will begin their career exploration by creating an account with Ohio Means Jobs. In the paragraphs below you will see information copied from the Ohio Department of Education's website reagrding new requirements for our students as they move toward graduation.

The graduation requirements for the classes of 2018 and beyond include curriculum and three options to show readiness for next steps in college and careers. To graduate through the industry credential and workforce readiness option, a student must earn 12 points through a State Board of Education-approved industry-recognized credential or group of credentials in a single career field and achieve a workforce readiness score on the WorkKeys assessment.

At its September meeting, the State Board of Education set the readiness scores on WorkKeys for students choosing this option for high school graduation. The WorkKeys assessment has three sections: reading, applied mathematics and locating information. Students in the classes of 2018 and 2019 must earn a total of 13 points across the three WorkKeys sections; students in the class of 2020 and beyond must earn a total of 14 points. Students also must earn at least three points on each section of the test.

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Parenting with Love and Logic

I think that most parents would agree that when our children grow up and leave our care, that we hope to have instilled in them the roots of responsibility to provide a firm foundation, but also wings to help them soar. Parenting is a difficult job and unfortunately there are no instruction manuals to raise responsible children. There is, however, Love and Logic. Love and Logic is a parenting program that was developed by Mr. Jim Fay and Dr. Spencer Cline. The Love and Logoic program builds responsibility in children through shared control, defining the ownership of a problem, providing opportunities for thinking and decision making, and allowing empathy and copnsequences to do the teaching.

The following is an excerpt from the Love and Logic model for the Four Steps to Responsibility. Step One: Provide a task to your child that they can handle. Before the task is started, have your child describe what ther outcome of the task will look like when finished. Step Two: If your child does not complete the task, instead of getting upset, think of this situation as an opportunity to learn a real world experience. Remember this real world experience right now is going to be very "inexpensive". As our children grow older, the life lessons get more "expensive." Step Three: Let equal parts of empathy and consequence do the teaching. Children need to learn that their mistakes hurt them. This does not hurt them when adults get angry. The empathy reduces the chances that the child will spend time thinkiing about the adult's anger, because they should be thinking about their decision and the consequences of their decisons. Step Four: Give the same task again. The unstated message is that people learn from their mistakes.

If you would like to learn more about the Love and Logic parenting philosophy, consider checking out the book, Parenting with Love and Logic, or feel free to contact Mr. Schibley at (440)268-5971 to loan some of the Love and Logic materials.