The 7 Habits

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers

A Riddle

I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things you do might just as well turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.

I am easily managed - you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly what you want done and after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all great individuals and, alas, all failures, as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures.

I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin - it makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will destroy you.



The 7 Habits

They are...

  1. Be proactive.
  2. Begin with the end in mind.
  3. Put first things first.
  4. Think win-win.
  5. Seek first to understand. Then to be understood.
  6. Synergize.
  7. Sharpen the saw.


Paradigms are a belief that may often be incomplete or wrong. It is how you see something in your own mind, some people may see the completely opposite thing.

Try a different pair of glasses.

Think of a paradigm as a pair of glasses. If you wear the wrong pair of glasses, you should change them to a pair that can help you see. If you have the wrong paradigm, you should change it to make it the right one.

Habit 1: Be Proactive

Proactive, reactive

Be proactive not reactive. A proactive person does not blame what happens to them on another person, a reactive person does. A proactive person does not take out their anger on another person due to something that happened to them, a reactive person does.

The book explains that reactive people are like a bottle of coke, and a proactive person like a bottle of water. When you shake the water, nothing happens. It just stays calm and still, like a proactive person. When you shake a bottle of coke, it explodes everywhere, like a reactive person.

Do it yourself!

Don't wait for things to happen to you, get up and make them happen for yourself.

Things don't just come to you by mistake, nothing is just handed over to you. You just have to gut up of your bum and grab it.

Circle of control

The circle of control shows what we can and cannot control in life: colour of skin, weather, past mistakes, parents, or rude comments. What we can control, and what the circle of control tells us we can control is ourselves and how we react to our parents, the weather or rude comments. The book tells us to stop worrying about things we can't control like questions on exam papers, and focus on things we can, like revising the subject first so there is a better chance of getting those questions right.

Habit 1 says...

Get out of the passenger seat and become the driver.

YOU are the only one who can control your feelings. It is your choice to get angry, sad or be happy with somebody.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

5 years into the future...

In this chapter the book tells you to shut your eyes and imagine yourself in 5 years time. Where will you be? What will you be doing? Who will you be with? What will you look like?

The whole point of this chapter is to know where you want to be, and draw up a plan of how you are going to get there.

Mission statements

The book suggests that to get to the place where you want to be in life, you should give yourself a mission statement to help you get there. It also gives examples. Some are long, some are short, some are poems, some are songs, some are just bullet points. Either way, they should be able to help you become the kind of person you want to be.


Goals are more specific than mission statements. They are smaller steps to becoming what you want.

When you make cookies, you know what you want them to turn out like. You also know that you need certain ingredients (this is the mission statement) But to actually get the cookies cooked you need to follow the instructions step by step, in little pieces to get the perfect bake. These are your goals.

My mission Statment

Be everything you can in life. Don't let anyone get you down.

Habit 2 says...

Now that you're the driver, choose where you want to go, draw a map to get there.

Habit 3: Put first things first

The four quadrants

The four quadrants are something that describes the sort of person who does import and and urgent things and the people who don't.

  1. Quadrant one is someone who does urgent and important things, the procrastinator.
  2. Quadrant two someone who does important but not urgent things, the prioritiser.
  3. Quadrant three is someone who does urgent but not important things, the yes-man.
  4. Quadrant four is someone who does unimportant and not urgent things, the slacker.

  1. The procrastinator puts off everything he or she needs to do, and does the things that are not necessarily important but urgent.
  2. The prioritiser makes shire they do the important things they need to do first, then the urgent things.
  3. The yes-man finds it hard to say no to urgent but unimportant jobs, they try so hard to please others but by taking so much on at once, they end up not pleasing themselves.
  4. Lastly the slacker is the person who can't be bothered to do either. Neither important or urgent, however important or urgent the job might be.

Which one are you?

Everyone should try hard to be the prioritiser but everyone has a little yes-man in them, you should always to please people as much as you can, without getting fought up in to much work.

Habit 3 says...

Get there, don't let anything stop you along the way.

The 7 habits of happy kids

This is a book that teaches the same ideas but in a much simpler way for little kids to understand. It has all the same habits and fun stories for kids to learn from. there are lots of animal characters: like squirrels, bears, rabbits, skunks, a mouse, and a porcupine.