Tobin Lee Grinder

What is an ENFP-T?

The life of the party, but not interested in the sheer excitement and pleasure of the moment. Instead they enjoy the emotional and social connections. Charming, independent, energetic and compassionate.



I try to seek knowledge through experiences. Like making a metal melting foundry, or doing origami because I didn't know how it worked.

Very Popular and Friendly

In my school I had no one that I knew of that didn't like me. I kind of knew everyone in my grade and was a friend to all of them so to speak of.

Excellent Communicators

I do enjoy small talk. I kind of need it to live, but I live for the moment when I can have a deep meaningful talk with a good friend.


I can at times notice every little detail, but I can easily get lost in thought and not notice everything. I love to watch people and try to understand them without a conversation. Then when I go to talk to them I atleast have something to talk about.


Find it Difficult to Focus

I get caught in my own thoughts very easily.

Overthink Things

I often over think situations when it comes to people I care deeply about and don't want to hurt. I then...

Get Stressed Easily

When it does come to overthinking the situation with people I care about I get stressed with in minutes or even seconds.

Highly Emotional

When I am under stress I can experience emotional bursts that are counter-productive at best.

Independent to a Fault

As it says on https://www.16personalities.com/enfp-strengths-and-weaknesses, they want to be seen as highly independent masters of their own fates. I often find that I will go to great lengths to hide my emotions from others. I don't want me to know that I feel that I am not the master of my own fate.