You fail on an important test, loose the job, break up or someone beloved dies, then it is normal you will be sad and rueful. Then you will get over it and get back on track. However, if sadness lasts for weeks or months, weather it is resultantly of some kind of loss or not, it is a serious condition. If the condition has disturbing effect on daily life; work or school, family life and friendship, then it is necessary to seek for professional help.
Expression of depressed person is something in this direction; Something that used to be fun is not fun any more. My appetite is gone, memory loss and it is hard to concentrate. I could not get anything done. Repeated negative thoughts attended me – woke me also up at night and when that happend I worried about how tired and badly-rested I would be the next day. I felt really bad around people. I concerned that people were judging me. I felt like I was in everybody's way, experienced shame and in some way I was afraid that people would find out. It costed me a lot of energy to put on the „everything –is-fine“ mask. Sometime I was irritated and it was hard to be around me. In the end I was all alone and isolated from everybody. Therefore, I wondered if life was worth living for. On that point, fortunately, I seeked for help and took the first step to a better life. I learned that therapy is generally successful.


Hvað á að gera þegar lífið tekur óvænta stefnu?

Í gengum lífð erum við alltaf að setja okkur markmið, bæði stutt- og langtíma markmið. Mikil skref, eins og fara út á vinnumarkaðinn, gifta sig eða eignast fyrsta barnið sem sem skerpir þessi markmið. Hinsvegar í minni mæli, kanski án þess að átta sig á því, ertu stöðugt að meta reynslu þína með tilliti til því hvernig þú ætlar að ná þessum stóru áformum sem þú hefur planað fyrir sjálfan þig.

Plön eru frábær að því leiti að þau hjálpa þér að taka ákvörðun hvað þú vilt gera, eða ekki, í því skyni að stuðla að markmiðum þínum. Eins og allar áætlanir geta komið fram breytingar sem annað hvort hjálpa eða hindra markmið lífsins. Breytingarnar geta komið alveg tilviljunarkennt, líkt og meiðast eða misst heimilið þitt í bruna. Það má líka vera að þetta endurspegli forgangsröðun þína í lífinu, eins og tifandi líffræðilega klukkan þegar fólk vill verða foreldri sem eru kominn á þann aldur.

Breytingar á lífsplönum þínum geta líka skipt máli ef þú lítur á þau jákvætt eða neikvætt. Venjulega, við lítum á breytingar í lífi okkar eins jákvætt og hægt er þegar þær hjálpa okkur að komst nær mikilvægum markmiðum sem við höfum sett okkur. Við lítum á breytingarnar á neikvæðan hátt þegar þær hindra framfarir okkar. Það er einnig mögulegt að breytingar sem þú sást í fyrstu á neikvæðann hátt hefur þróast í breytingu sem þú sérð þig færast nær og nær lífsmarkmiðum þínum. Til dæmis, eftir að þú hefur verið meiddur, þú gætir tekið umm nýja æfingaráætlum sem, yfir tíma, sem í raun og veru bætir heilsu þína og stöðuleika. Þótt þú hefur þurft að taka krók til að komast þangað, ertu aftur á leið til betri virkni.



Helena Fisher is an anthropologist. She takes on a tricky topic, love. She explains its evolution its biochemical foundations and its social importance. She tells us about a research she did, MRE and open it with a difficult question, „Where is love going?“ Love is much stronger than sexual feelings. If somebody asks if they want to have sex whit them and the answer is no, they don‘t kill themselves. But when people are reject by love, suicide is very common. People live for love, they kill for love, they die for love. She also explains how the brain works, the brain is divided in three parts: first, sex drive(many person), second, romantic drive (focus on one person) and third, seccuriti (detachment). She closes with a warning about the potential disaster inherent in antidepressant abuse.


Dan Gilbert did some research about synthetic happiness and natural happiness. He studied both and came to conclusion that for example when a woman is on a date and the date picks his nose, then there would not be a second date. However, if a husband would pick his nose in front of his wife they would find a way to make it work. When we are stuck with some situation, like in marriage, we make the best out of the situation that is. But when we have the freedom to choose we sometimes wonder about whether the thing or the situation is good or not and we are never really happy about what we got, although our intention is to be deeply happy.


Nancy Etcoff says that that is in our nature to pursue happiness. People hate lose more than they love to win. Here is her thoughts on new science of happiness: '' Happiness and unhappiness are not endpoints of a single continuum''. And ''happiness is not simply the absence of misery, a fact intuitively obvious to anyone who has ever felt happy''. People are happiest in flow, with other people and active. People are not happier thinking and wondering about themselves. She also says that when people are trying to pursue money to much they forget the basic pleasur´s of life.



Hello, my name is Sebastian Alexandersson. I come from Serbia, but I have lived here for over twenty years. I am a sport psychiatrist. I started the education, in Háskóli Íslands, when I was 24 years old. The education was really challenging and hard. First, I graduated with BA degree from psychology and then I specialised myself in sport psychology. The whole education took me me 5 years.
When I was in tenth grade there was this kid, my friends were always bullying him. I didn't knew him, I didn't help him. I think then I realized I wanted to study something related to psychology. My main hobby is sport, and I love helping people when they are having hard times. So loving sports and loving to help people, sport psychology is the perfect job for me. I offer traditional training for people and I have done that since 2001. I have helped a lot of people to make health lifestyle, build up their confidence and get them in better physical shape. Also, since 2010 I've trained MFL Selfoss in handball.
I would describe sport psychology as to improve the performance of athletes by training and improving the psychologycal characteristics. I would like to add, sport psychology is relatively new phenomenon and have been root it self slowly into the sport world. Many people think that sport psychology is only a solution when everything is going wrong, for example when teams‘s performance is low. This misunderstanding has caused that many coaches and athletes practically fear sports psychiatrists and consider that while they are not having a serious problem in their game, they don‘t need a sport psychiatrist. It is time to stop fearing sports psychology and welcome it in the training zone where physiotherapist, goalkeeper trainer, nutritionist and more specialized coaches are. All of these coaches have the same goal, to improve the performance of athletes, regardless of whether the athlete is in crisis or not.

Thank you :)

1) When did you realize you wanted to be a sport psychiatrist?

2) How was the education?

3) How would you describe sport psychology?

4) What do you do for a living?

5) Something you would like to add?