Jackson Journal
Have a wonderful Fall Break!
Important Dates to Remember
Friday, October 13 - Family Leadership Meeting - CANCELLED
Monday-Friday, Fall Break - October 16-20
Friday, October 27 - Group pictures and Individual picture make-up day (Parents, be sure to send a note indicating your wish for a make-up photo.)
Wednesday, November 8 - System-wide career fair for all 4th graders
Counselor's Corner
Do your kids rarely argue, do what you tell them to do, and love to please you?
Yes! There are kids like this, and I'm betting that plenty of you have at least one.
While they're great fun to be around, these kids can lull us into using ineffective techniques.
I worry about sweet kids. Unlike strong-willed kids, they rarely remind us to use our Love and Logic skills. It's easy to stop giving enough choices. It's easy to fall back on giving orders instead of setting limits. It's easy to forget that all kids... even really compliant ones... need to make plenty of affordable mistakes.
It's not uncommon to see easy-going kids have big problems in adolescence and young adulthood. Since some haven't made enough choices and affordable mistakes, some fall prey to trying to please their peers as they have tried to please their parents.
It's not uncommon to see adolescence like this fall into dangerous activities as a result.
Don't allow your sweet kids to lull you into forgetting to set limits and giving them appropriate choices. Make sure you schedule time to talk to your child about how things are going at school and things at home he/she may not agree with, etc. This will allow the “compliant” child a chance to be sincere in how they are feeling. And remember, no matter how “good” they are, they are still children in need or direction, guidance and limitations.
Yes! There are kids like this, and I'm betting that plenty of you have at least one.
While they're great fun to be around, these kids can lull us into using ineffective techniques.
I worry about sweet kids. Unlike strong-willed kids, they rarely remind us to use our Love and Logic skills. It's easy to stop giving enough choices. It's easy to fall back on giving orders instead of setting limits. It's easy to forget that all kids... even really compliant ones... need to make plenty of affordable mistakes.
It's not uncommon to see easy-going kids have big problems in adolescence and young adulthood. Since some haven't made enough choices and affordable mistakes, some fall prey to trying to please their peers as they have tried to please their parents.
It's not uncommon to see adolescence like this fall into dangerous activities as a result.
Don't allow your sweet kids to lull you into forgetting to set limits and giving them appropriate choices. Make sure you schedule time to talk to your child about how things are going at school and things at home he/she may not agree with, etc. This will allow the “compliant” child a chance to be sincere in how they are feeling. And remember, no matter how “good” they are, they are still children in need or direction, guidance and limitations.