Tidbits of information to bring hope and peace!
I am a problem solver - and rightly so as it is in line with my training and my profession. It is often easy for me to see a quick solution to a difficulty that a student is having - my adult wisdom and real-world experience give me a very large advantage over my little charges!
Often, I am able to clearly see solutions for my colleagues as well; not necessarily because of any actual superpower, but merely because I have a different perspective and a unique vantage point. Since I am not the one that is mired in the dilemma, the solutions are more distinct!
I have discovered, however, that solving problems is the primary responsibility of the one who has inherited them; whether by their own doing, or the actions of others. What is difficult for me, then, is leading people in the art of discovering their own solution to their own problem. While tossing someone an answer may be quick and easy, guiding them to a workable solution is often tedious. In the long run, however, making a solution one’s own is far more successful, and definitely more empowering for students and adults alike!
These are things to remember with our kids as well. Giving them the opportunity to craft their own solutions develops a life-skill that will serve them well through adulthood. Look below in this newsletter for some problem-solving skills to use on your kiddos. You may want to try out a few of these on yourself as well!
As always, if I can be of help, just let me know.
LeeAnn Galbraith (aka Mrs. G)
The SKILL your child needs to succeed as adult
Alexandra Chief Creator at Big Life Journal
Here's the truth. Our children will probably have jobs we've never even heard of. So how are we supposed to prepare them for the future we don't even know ourselves? What we DO know is that certain skills will be very helpful to them no matter what they choose to do in life.
Problem-solving is one of those skills.
You might have heard your child say things like: "I can't find the answer", "My pencil isn't working", "She touched my stuff!"
These are all great opportunities to help your child practice problem-solving.
Think of yourself as an observer, supporter, and questioning partner.
For example, my favorite strategy to use with my 4-year-old is to tell him to "try three before you ask me".
What it means is he needs to try three things before asking me for help. For example, if he can't open something right away, he would need to find three safe ways to open it before asking me.
Here are some more ideas how to respond to your child to encourage problem-solving.
The good news is we don't need special materials or specific activities to foster problem-solving.
We just need to have a certain attitude and look out for opportunities in our day-to-day lives.
Social Skills Lesson
A problem solving story for young children. See the hand-out pictured below. https://challengingbehavior.cbcs.usf.edu/docs/ProblemSolving_Story_Home_EN.pdf
Have you ever had a problem? Everyone does. Problems can sometimes make us feel sad, mad, frustrated, or confused.
If I have a problem, I can do something. I can try out some solutions to help me with my problem.
1. If I have a problem, first I have to think about it…What is my problem?
2. And I have to think of a way to make it better… Think, think, think of some solutions.
3. Look at some of the solutions I can try! What would happen if I tried my solution…
- Would it be safe?
- How would everyone feel?
4. Then… give it a try! If my solution didn’t work, I might have to think, think, think of another solution.
Let’s try being a problem solver…
Love and Logic®
Boredom Can Be a Good Thing!
With our kids stuck at home and many of their extracurricular activities curtailed, you might have heard the following: “This is boring!” or “I’m bored. There’s nothing to do.”
In days gone by, most parents had extremely simple, practical, and effective responses to such whining, such as:
- “Here’s a rake.”
- “Here’s a dust cloth.”
- “There are a lot of weeds that need to be pulled.”
- “I guess I haven’t given you enough chores to do.”
Is it so simple? Is it really okay for us to expect our children to assume personal responsibility for coping with dull times? Absolutely!
Because life can be boring, especially under our current conditions, doesn’t it make sense that we allow our children to practice handling it, instead of constantly rescuing them by providing exciting and fun activities?
In our special offer, you can learn the basics of Love and Logic as well as find tips on how to help children turn boredom into industry. Yep! Boredom can lead to creativity and achievement when we respond to complaining about it in some of the following ways:
- “What are you going to do about feeling so bored?”
- “Some kids decide to go out in the yard and clean up after the dog.”
- “Some kids decide to dust the furniture.”
- “Some kids decide to read a book.”
- “Sadly, some kids decide to go to their rooms and stay unhappy about it.”
- “I love you. Good luck.”
Do you want your children to grow up believing that it is somebody else’s job to keep them entertained and happy? Or would you rather raise youngsters who know that the best way to feel good is to do something good?
Give your kids the great gift of boredom and you will be blessed with kids who are far less demanding, far more content, and much better prepared for life.
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Dr. Charles Fay
Love and Logic® is a research-driven, whole-child philosophy founded in 1977 by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D. It provides practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with their children. Visit their website at loveandlogic.com