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Robert Down Elementary School Counseling Website
Welcome Back Otters!
Dear Robert Down Families,
I hope this newsletter provides helpful information for the 2022/2023 school year. This flyer has extensive knowledge about community resources, in addition to some favorite social and emotional learning books for parents and children.
The Robert Down counseling program offers our students individual and group counseling sessions. In addition, two social and emotional (SEL) lessons are provided in the student's classroom twice monthly, beginning from September to April. These lessons utilize our TOOLBOX curriculum, and Strong Start curriculum. Please check out the websites below to learn more about these SEL programs.
2. https://strongkidsresources.com/about/general
I work at Robert Down Elementary School Monday through Thursday. Please email if you have questions about the school counseling program or would like support finding outside resources for your family.
Sincerely,
Sonda Frudden, School Counselor
Robert Down Elementary
831-291-3389
Sonda Frudden
Robert Down Counseling Permission Slip
Robert Down Elementary TOOLBOX Resources

Social Emotional Learning Library
Books Supporting Equity, Diversity, and Inclusion
Mary Wears What She Wants by Keith Negley Keith Negley is also the illustrator of his books. Check his works out online. | Tough Guys by Keith Negley | My Voice is a Trumpet by Jimmie Allen |
Supporting Resilience Through Changing Times
I Can Do Hard Things: Mindful Affirmations for Kids By: Gabi Garcia Illustrated by: Charity Russell | Just Ask! Be Different, Be Brave, Be You By: Sonia Sotomayor Illustrated by: Rafael Lopez | Perfect Ninja By Mary Nhin |
The Hugging Tree: A Story About Resilience By Jill Neimark Illustrated by: Nicole Wong | Master of Mindfulness: How to Be Your Own Superhero in Times of Stress Foreward by: Jon Kabat-Zinn, PhD Laurie Grossman Angelina Alvarez Mr. Musumeci's 5th Grade Class | What do You do With a Problem? By Kobi Yamada and illustrated by Mae Besom |
Master of Mindfulness: How to Be Your Own Superhero in Times of Stress
Laurie Grossman
Angelina Alvarez
Mr. Musumeci's 5th Grade Class
Growth Mindset
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success By Carol S. Dweck Ph.D. | Your Fantastic Elastic Brain By JoAnne Deak, Ph.D. | A Walk in the Rain with a Brain By Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. |
Learning to Love the Challenge
Books On Grief for Children
Websites On Grief
GoodTherapy.com's Top Ten Grief Websites
Acknowledgment of the profound effects of grief and loss isn’t enough, of course. More must be done to point grieving people toward resources that can help them cope and heal. According to the National Institute for Mental Health, only 10% of grieving people will ever seek professional help.
While GoodTherapy.org is at its core a directory of therapists committed to treating issues such as grief and loss, it is also a comprehensive resource for people seeking mental health treatment and information. It is with that in mind that we selected the 10 best resources on the Internet in 2012—GoodTherapy.org excluded—for people experiencing grief and loss. Among the criteria we used to select our top 10 websites are quality and depth of content, presentation, and functionality.
- The Compassionate Friends: A nationwide nonprofit organization, The Compassionate Friends is designed to support and give resources to families who are coping with the death of a child. In addition to its wealth of information about healing grief, TCF holds national and regional conferences, facilitates online and in-person support groups for grieving families, and broadcasts a weekly web-radio series.
- Grieving.com: Grieving.com is a forum resource for people to connect with others and share stories of loss and healing. The forum has more than 45,000 active members and features topics ranging from terminal illness and sudden death to the loss of a pet.
- MISS Foundation: The MISS Foundation is a volunteer-run nonprofit organization that supports people of all ages through the process of grieving the death of a child. Among the offerings are discussion forums, educational resources, biannual conferences, and local support groups, and grieving visitors can connect with a HOPE (Helping Other Parents Endure) mentor for individualized support.
- Recover From Grief: Recover From Grief provides valuable information about the grieving process as well as coping strategies. Site visitors can view a comprehensive “grief guidebook” and participate in a seven-part grief work e-course. Recover From Grief also provides a space to create memorials for loved ones or tell personal stories, and offers a “grief relief” audio program.
- The Grief Toolbox: The Grief Toolbox is a comprehensive resource for people experiencing grief. Articles, other resources, and an online art gallery help support individuals in the grieving process. The Grief Toolbox also provides a support group locator.
- National Alliance for Grieving Children: The National Alliance for Grieving Children is a nationwide platform that connects professionals, consumers, and volunteers whose mission is to support children and teens through the grieving process. NAGC offers online education, a searchable support group database, and hosts an annual symposium about child grief.
- Navigating Grief: Navigating Grief is an online community established by Joan Hitchens, author of Storybooks for Healing and A Caregiver’s Blog. Hitchens is a member of the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) and National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization (NHCPO). Navigating Grief provides educational tools and insight into the grieving process from Hitchens’ personal experiences as a hospice volunteer, widow, and caregiver. Site visitors can also find teleseminars, webinars, and blog posts by professionals to support grieving individuals.
- Bereaved Parents of the USA: Bereaved Parents of the USA connects grieving parents with other bereaved parents, grandparents, and siblings for one-on-one support. The site offers a newsletter, articles and poems, and many resources and links for grieving families to guide them through the grieving process. It also hosts an annual gathering where bereaved parents can share their stories with others and participate in grief workshops.
- Losing Your Parents: Losing Your Parents is a personal blog by Lisa A. Snyder, who lost both of her parents by the age of 27. Snyder connects grieving children through blog posts, a free e-book titled The Last Words Ever Spoken, and many other online resources. Losing Your Parents also accepts guest posts for others to share stories of grief and healing.
- FriendGrief: FriendGrief is a personal blog, operated by author Victoria Noe, specifically designed to support people who have lost friends. Noe writes extensively about the differences between losing a friend and a family member, and provides space for guest bloggers to share their experiences of mourning the loss of a friend.
Books On Kindness & Empathy
Have You Filled a Bucket Today? Book about thinking about others. | I Am Enough Accepting who you are and learning of your unique place in the world. | I Walk With Vanessa A sweet and simple book with a big message. For younger children. |
Books On Cliques
Queen Bees Wannabes Helping your daughter survive cliques, gossip, boys and the new realities of girl world. By Rosalind Wiseman | Cliques Just Don't Make Cents By Julia Cook | Cliques, Phonies & Other Baloney By Trevor Romain |
My Favorite Books for Parents & Caregivers
The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary, PhD A classic in the making. | No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tine Payne Bryson, PhD. This book has made it to many best seller lists and continues to be one of the top parenting books to read. I appreciate Dr. Siegel's impact on the importance of parenting the whole child. | Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields, MSAE At the top of the mindful parenting books out there. A good read. |
No-Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tine Payne Bryson, PhD.
The Gardener & the Carpenter, Alison Gopnik I listen to this wonderful book while exercising and am inspired. | Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, PhD Learning about attachment was essential in understanding how attachment or lack thereof can affect a persons social and emotional life and relationships with others. An important book! | Simplicity Parenting, by Kim John Payne, M.ED. Because less is more time and time again. A lovely read. |
The Gardener & the Carpenter, Alison Gopnik
Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, PhD
How to Hug A Porcupine by Julie A. Ross, M.A. I haven't read this one yet but the reviews are in and it's on my list! | Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish This duo has written some wonderful books. I have an only child but this book helped me be a better sister. | How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish Antoher great book about communication with children. Listening is an art and I can never have enough information about the art of listening and being present for others. It's a mindful daily practice. |
How to Hug A Porcupine by Julie A. Ross, M.A.
Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
Social Justice Parenting by D. Traci Baxley An important book to learn how to raise compassionate, empathic, and sensitive children who accept others people's differences. | Raising LGBTQ Allies, by Chris Tompkins This book gave me the words and skills to talk mindfully when LGBTQ conversations come up. | Unequal Childhoods, by Annette Lareau An informative read about class, race, and family life. |
Social Justice Parenting by D. Traci Baxley
Raising LGBTQ Allies, by Chris Tompkins
The Body Keeps The Score, Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. Understanding the impact of trauma and how it affects our brain, mind, and body. | Supernormal by Meg Jay, PhD About adversity and resilience. | The Musical Child by Joan Koenig Music is the most universal language to fill our homes with. |
Between Parent & Child by Dr. Haim G. Ginott My all time favorite parenting book and I have read many. I highlighted many passages of this book and keep it beside my bed as a helpful reminder. This books keeps me on track when I lose my way. | Between Parent & Teenager by Dr. Haim G. Ginott The teen version is just as good. | Raising an Organized Child by Damon Korb, MD, FAAP I'm convinced that learning to organize and develop executive functioning skills is the key to success in school, career, and in life. We often overlook the importance of organizational skills. Learning to stay organized is an essential lifeskill. |
Between Parent & Child by Dr. Haim G. Ginott
Local Community Mental Health Resources
Check out the links for a list of therapists in our local area:
Seeking a Therapist Under Your Insurance:
https://mccamft.org/find-therapist
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
Sam's Guide to Monterey County Family Resources - provides a comprehensive list of area resources from Mental Health, Wellness, Caregiving, Food and Shelters
http://mcdss.co.monterey.ca.us/docs/SAMs_01_2017.pdf
The Village Project: provides individual and group counseling meeting the needs of the under-served African American community. They support all people and have many groups events as well. Check out the website below for more information.
https://www.villageprojectinc.org/about
Ohana Center for Child & Adolescent Behavioral Health:
https://www.montagehealth.org/locations/profile/ohana/
Community Human Services: individual and group therapy

Resources on Cybersafety & Technology
ConnectSafely: Promoting Safety, Privacy & Security
www.connectsafely.org/
Common Sense Education Digital Citizenship Curriculum & EdTech Reviews
www.commonsense.org