Arranged Marriages

Is arranged marriage forced?

Background info

  • Some have strong relationships
  • Some families provide support for the two "lovers" marriage
  • Sometimes the family might try to force marriage onto a person
  • sometimes arranged and forced marriage are considered the same
  • the person will be put under peer pressure by family

Pros

  • No chance of fighting or break ups before marriage
  • Some marriages end up with a person being more accepting towards another religion
  • people sometimes get support to help them with their marriage

Cons

  • Sometimes Suicidal
  • high divorce rate
  • lack of trust
  • sometimes abusive
  • might end up drunk some of the time
  • less acceptance
  • less understanding

Sabatina James

Sabatina used to live in rural Pakistan,where she grew up in the shadow of the Kashmir mountains. She moved to the Austrian City of Linz, where people wore makeup and skinny jeans. Her parents disproved of her wearing t-shirts ,jeans, lipstick and eyeliner. She and her mother fought over going to swimming classes and dance.Her mother found her diary once, and when she learned that Sabatina kissed a boy once after school, she slapped her across the cheek, slammed her against the wall, and kicked her legs. Sabatina says that she was going to marry a man she had met only once. She said that her mother beat her constantly. she says, "When you're becoming a mature young woman and your mother is beating you, it's very damaging. You have no anchor." One day, when her mom found a T-shirt that she felt was too skimpy, she smacked Sabatina hard in the face with a shoe, splitting her lip. Her father told her, "The honor of this family is more important than my life or your life." This was a direct threat on her life. "It sounds extreme", she says,"but it happens," Each year, more than 5,000 women and girls around the world are murdered by family members for "shaming" the family by acting in ways deemed disobedient or immodest. Sabatina has started a foundation called Sabatina in Germany, where she lives. her group acts as an underground railroad for women and girls looking to escape the terror that is arranged marriage.

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