Personal Time Line

The Healing Room at Heartspace

Module Thirteen - Two Hours

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Making a Personal Time Line

Charting your own life experiences, the sequence of events, and the possible relationship of some events to other events can help you develop increased perspective and insight. The goal of this module is to increase self-understanding and self-compassion by having a detailed overview of how you came to be where you are today.

Additionally, issues and events can be identified for processing in your personal therapy.

It is best to take your time and schedule two separate hours for this module, due to the volume of material you will be touching upon. Use the skills you learned in earlier modules to pause and reorient, ground, and resource with meditations, yoga, etc.

Romantic and Intimate Relationships

Our relationship history is very important. There may be none, or only one, or there could be many relationships in your life. The ones with the most impact can be long or short.

Personal Milestones and Accomplishments

There are milestones like graduating high school, leaving home, getting your first job, etc. which can be very important to a person. Think about accomplishments like promotions, graduations, passing exams, reaching professional goals, winning a sports event, receiving special recognition, receiving an award, etc.

Failures and Disappointments

Failures and disappointments can be a huge factor in our life and shape how we feel about ourselves.

Significant Separations and Losses

Various important events have happened in your life. You can chart on a timeline the location of these events, your age at the time, other people involved, how you felt then, and how you feel now about these events.

Accidents and Illnesses

Accidents and illnesses happen to ourselves and important people around us. Both can have a big impact on us.

Traumatic Memories

Various important events have happened in your life. You can chart on a timeline the location of these events, your age at the time, other people involved, how you felt then, and how you feel now about these events.

Make a List

Start with a writing pad. Write down a list (in any order) of all the major events in your life. Some of the things you will want to include are; birth, milestones, accidents, illnesses, deaths, losses, separations, accomplishments, graduations, legal & criminal events, traumas, trips, moves, beginnings and endings of relationships - in short everything important.

Rate It

Rate all events with a number from 1 to 3 in terms of their impact on you. Three being the highest. Start by identifying all the threes, then twos. After that the remainder are ones. Write these scores next to each event on your list.

Post It

After you have made a thorough list, make a Post-It note for each event, using a different color for 1,2, and 3 ratings of impact of events. Place the Post-Its on a wall starting with your birth on the left end of the wall, and today all the way on the right. Of course, you can have important impactful events that happened before your birth too. Place these to the left of birth if you have these. Put everything in chronological order.

Journal About What You Discover

There is scratch paper (recycled junk faxes on one side, blank on the other), writing pads, and sketch pads for you to use to make drawings and writing notes about your Healing Room experience. Take a moment at any time during your Modules, or at the end to do so.

You may also want to bring along your own private journal for this purpose.

Take Your Time/Repeat

All modules are intended to be done unhurried & at your own pace. The designated timeframes are really just a guess. If you don't finish the module you are doing in the allotted timeframe, just note where you left off and schedule another time where you can finish the module. It is also helpful to repeat modules and alter them for your own individual purposes.

Providing feedback in the private group blog at will help us make modifications in estimated time, and improve the overall experience of using The Healing Room.

Alternating Bilateral Stimulation

ABS can be helpful in mindfully processing the material as it comes up in this module.

Remember, The Healing Room is set up with a stereo system that can provide audible Alternating Bilateral Stimulation (ABS) which is a component of EMDR therapy (Eye-Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing). The unique Alternating Bilateral Stimulation sample played continuously in The Healing Room is called Ocean Crossover and mimics ocean waves moving back and forth across the room at a gentle low volume in the background. It has a relaxing effect and supports the neural integration of new perspectives and healing of negatively charged memories, particularly when it is paired with specific tasks.

*Having the ABS playing at a volume loud enough to hear it, but low enough that it seems to fade into the background while you learn these skills, is optimal.