balancing work and title
1.Department of Internal Medicine and Center for Bioethics and Social Sciences in Medicine, University of Michigan and VA Ann Arbor Center for Clinical Management Research, 2800 Plymouth Road, Building 16, Rm. 455S, Ann Arbor, MI 48109-2800, USA
2 Department of Medicine and Cecil Sheps Center for Health Services Research, CB# 7110, University of North Carolina, Chapel Hill, NC 27599, USA
3 Nursing, Midwifery and Allied Health Professions Research Unit, University of Stirling, Iris Murdoch Building, Stirling, FK9 4LA, UK
priorties and manage time
1. Be aware of how you are currently spending your time
The first step to changing your relationship to time is to assess how to spend your time. Write down all the things that you do. How much time do you spend in each area? The way you spend your time is a statement of what your priorities are.
2. Assess how satisfied you are with the way you are spending your time
Next, think about the most important areas of your life (e.g., career, relationships, personal development, finances, health, fun, service etc).
• Rate each area in terms of how important it is to you. Use a scale of 1-10 with 1 being "not important" and 10 being "vitally important.
• Now rate how well are you living each of these areas. How satisfied are you with the amount of time that you spend on this area? Rate this on a scale of 1-10.
Look back at those areas that you rated as very important (8, 9 or 10). If there is a gap of 2 or more points between how important an area is and your satisfaction rating, chances are that you are feeling a lack of balance because there is a gap between what is important to you and what you are actually doing.
3. Set new priorities to start doing more of the important things in your life
The third step to reordering your priorities is to figure out what important activities are missing from your life. As you review each question, write down the activities that come to mind.
1. What is the most important thing in my life right now?
2. Where would I want to spend more time?
3. Where would I want to spend less time?
4. What areas need my attention now (e.g., school, talent, health, relationship)?
Write down your activities in the order that feels most important to you. This is your new list of priorities.
Remember that your priorities can change in any given period of time. If there is something important on your list that you do not have time for right now, think about when you can slot that in. It's another way to take charge of time and feel in control.
Enjoy your new list of priorities!
realistic goals and expectations
2. Make sure the goal is measurable. Trying to achieve a feeling (like being happy) or an ambiguous accomplishment gives you no way to measure your success. When possible, dollars or time. This will allow you to measure what you have achieved and readjust accordingly.
3. Make sure the goal is in your hands. This means you must be able to achieve the goal as a result of your own hard work and determination, or with the willing assistance of someone already in your network. If you have no control over the outcome, it does not make for a realistic goal. Unrealistic goals can ultimately lead to depression and low feelings of self-worth. Don’t put such important things in the hands of what is the equivalent of a slot machine. There must be an action, or several actions, you can perform that will enable you to achieve the goals you set.
let go and understand control
2. Change your perception—see the root cause as a blessing in disguise.
3. Cry it out. According to Dr. William Frey II, PH.D., biochemist at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis, crying away your negative feelings releases harmful chemicals that build up in your body due to stress.