Mr. and Mrs. Smith

Mellissa Correia

MR. AND MRS. SMITH

Mate Selection & Relationship Forming

In this movie, the couple falls in love twice. The first time was located in Bogotá, Colombia five/six years earlier. There was an incident in the hotel that both characters were staying at and John Smith helped Jane Smith get out of a situation. They introduced themselves (it seems like love at first sight here) and then hung out all night at a bar. They danced the night away and went back to the hotel where they made love. The movie then transitions to the couple conversing with their friends about how despite only being together for 6 weeks, the two will get married. The movie finally transitions to 'today' where it is evident that the couple is keeping secrets from each other.


It is clear that the ideal mate theory was applied. This is due to the fact that this theory supports love at first sight. When they saw each other, they saw a huge physical attraction. They were only together for 6 weeks but they had already formed a strong attraction for one another and made immediate judgement that they were lovable enough for marriage.

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Mate Selection & Relationship Forming

Despite their marriage happening quite quick (they were only together for 6 weeks until they got engaged), it is clear that Murstein's Filter (Market) Theory was applied. Steps one and two in the theory are not evident in the movie but the rest are. When they saw each other, they saw a physical attraction (Attraction filter). As they spent more time together, they made a judgement on each others characteristics that further extended the decision to be together. As the movie progresses, the two are telling their friends about their engagement and it is clear that the Homogamy filter was applied. For example, Jane was saying to her friend how John makes a lot of money and is just as busy as she is and so there shouldn't be any conflicts. The Compatibility Filter is also applied during this time. As an example, John was telling his friend how Jane is sexy, spontaneous and mysterious and so he finds her to be the perfect match for marriage. The last two stages were not shown but are still evident since the couple did get married.
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Companionate Marriage

Issues: They lie to each other about their professions. They are actually both spies/assassins from rival companies. This is a long lasting problem for the couple since they are unable to fully connect knowing full well that they are keeping a huge secret from one another.


Labour Division: Jane is the one who cooks dinner but they both come home at the same time so from that, I assume that they both do equal amounts of house work. It is evident in the movie that they perform gender related tasks. This is proven by how Jane keeps all of her spy/assassin technology in the kitchen while John keeps his in the shed outside. (This proves where they spend most of their time)


Negotiate: In the movie Jane had gotten new curtains. She wanted to know if John liked them and when he said that he didn't and how he didn't want to redecorate the entire house she said that he will "grow to like it" (referring to the curtains) and it seemed like she was going to redecorate even if he didn't like it. The couple pretty much always stayed in this mindset even during the end of the movie but they were able to comprise in some aspects and listen to each others wants/needs better.


Stage: When the couple first got married and when they were engaged it is clear that they were in stage one of marriage. Completely in love and having a good time together. When the couple goes through their problems during the majority of the film, they were in stage two. They had conflicts to deal with and they were ready to separate. Although, after they realized that their companies wanted them both dead, they worked to resolve all issues allowing them to move into stage three.

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Impact of Family & Society

There were only two main concerns for the couple.


The first was that they were keeping secrets from one another.


The second was a societal/workplace factor. This actually helped them keep their marriage alive but it took a lot of hard work. Jane and John were from rival spy/assassin companies which to society is a big no and the workplaces wanted them both dead for it thus influencing how they treated each other (first negatively and then they helped each other stay alive).

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Current Research & Trends

In my opinion, this movie was hard to assess since the couple had a very complicated relationship. They kept too many things away from each other, thus causing them to have a lot of time spent in the second stage of marriage but if they shared the truth right away, they wouldn't have had such conflict. Nevertheless, this couple did follow Murstein's filter theory and they did go through the three stages of marriage thus being a reflection of current research.

Some Scenes from the Movie

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