Love vs. Infatuation

By: Alexia Dellemann

Definition of Love

A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend and can have a deep feeling of sexual attraction and desire

Personal Definition of Love

Caring and putting the persons needs over your own, can have sexual attraction or intimacy, long lived

Quote That Represents Love

"Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses."
~Ann Landers

This quote explains what love is about. It tells you what it takes to love and to be loved.

Types of Love That Show Love

Sternberg"s Triangular Theory of Love:

  • Consummate Love (Intimacy, Passion, Commitment)
  • Romantic Love (Passion, Intimacy)
  • Companionate (Commitment, Intimacy)

Lee's Six Styles of Love:

  • Agape (Selflessness)
  • Storge (Friendship)
  • Pragma (Practically)

These all show all of the characteristics that are needed for it to me love.

Relationship Scenario for Love

Jenna: strong willed, smart, caring, hopeful

Dave: Caring, Hard working, Strong, Protective

Jenna and Dave have been married for almost 15 years and have 3 kids. They have many differences, but they don't care about them. They love each other till death. They talk about their day and take care of each others needs. They don't give up on each other. They both help support the family and pay bills. They have fights once in a while but they get through it. They love each other and will get through the hard times.

Definition of Infatuation

Intense foolish or all-absorbing passion that is short lived and can include sexual attraction and desire

Personal Definition of Infatuation

Obsessing or intense feelings for a person that are short lived, with sexual attraction

Quote That Represents Infatuation

"A lot of the time when people get married in the infatuation, it will go down. That is inevitable. The infatuation stage will not last forever."

~Tamera Mowry

This quote explains infatuation. It shows how it can be mistaken for love, but it is full of passion. It tells you it doesn't last forever.

Types of Love That Show Infatuation

Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love:

  • Fatuous Love (Passion, Commitment)
  • Infatuation (Passion)
  • Liking (Intimacy)
  • Empty Love (Commitment)

Lee's Six Styles of Love:

  • Mania (Obsession)
  • Eros (Romance)
  • Ludos (Conquest)

These show some of the characteristics of love, but not all. If you don't have all the characteristics of love then it is infatuation.

Relationship Scenario for Infatuation

Marie was just sitting in the coffee shop one day and she seen Sam. Sam was hot and seem really nice. She started to go to the coffee shop everyday just to see Sam. She started to look at his Facebook page wanting to message him constantly.