The Bully
How the two headed snake poisons itself.
Who is the bully?
The dreaded "Children are cruel" the truth
1 in 7 students from k-12 are bullies. This is a nice cold splash of water for those who think it is too early for a child to be bullying. This is a problem that needs to be addressed no matter what bullying article it is. Catch. It. Early.
First. What qualifies as a bully?
A bully can be anyone. Any age, gender, race, religion, and social status can bully a person. A bully is someone who mentally, emotionally, physically, socially, or financially damage someone. It starts out small and then becomes a big problem. These things can happen from anytime from preschool to retirement. From a mean word to full on rant and cussing. Leaving someone out to manipulation. A pinch to a stab. One penny to bankrupt.
Where do they get this behavior?
The ratio for bully-victims that are bullied at home are 5.4. That means when they come home, this constant violence is happening no matter their location. So it becomes a constant activity for them and since they do get use to this, they think it's socially acceptable for them to behave like this to other students. This starts the story of how the two headed snake poisons itself
The often asked question, what do the victims witness? Since this is an article about what affects the bully, here's a great video that sums it up.
To This Day Project - Shane Koyczan
The bully is not innocent, for sure they have no justifiable reason to be a bully, but what happens to them?
When a person bullies, they are putting their mental health into jeopardy. Out of those who bully, one fourth of those bullies will have anxiety. Think of your friends, family, co-workers, fellow students that show any sign of bullying. Save them while you can.
School shootings.
61% of students said that student shoot others because they have been victims of physical abuse.
Long term/Short term effects of being a bully.
- unhappy in school
- increased depression
- Absence of school
- risk of running away from home
What can you do?
- Tell them they have a problem, it's a hard truth but it is a wake up call.
- Tell them that you're scared for their well being.
- Tell them that you will be there with them every step along the way whatever steps they may be.
- Check up on those they bully to see if the problem is actually going away.
Citations
stopbullying.com
tweenparenting.about.com
bullyingepidemic.com/how-does-bullying-affect-the-bully