What Can YOU Do?

BULLYING

First of All, What is Bullying?

Bullying is any progressed teasing/harassment that can result in physicality and social problems on the victim's end. While some people have different opinions on what exactly bullying comes down to, whether it is name calling or actually hitting/touching, bullying can come in all forms.



After you read through and finish this Smore, please keep in mind that you will not be a coward or pegged as weak if you choose to walk away from a bully, because it takes surprising strength to keep your fists at your side, and your head held high when you walk away from a bully or abuser.

When is Teasing/Harassment Bullying?

When the teasing is targeting something about you, something you like, or part of your lifestyle, it is bullying. When the harassment/teasing is continuous, it is bullying. When someone hits you hard enough to leave a mark, or hits continuously, it is bullying. Most of the time, when teasing escalates, it is classified as bullying.


However, when someone simply calls you a name once, and especially if that person is your friend or you know them well, you can deal with it yourself and it is not bullying.

So What Can You Do to Prevent/Stop Bullying?

When dealing with Cyber Bullying, the best thing to do is report the user for abuse, or simply ignore them if you feel like you can, without letting it get to you. Text to Text bullying is different though, even though you can block the number of the bully texting you, you can't always keep them from finding a new way of texting you, or chatting and IM-ing.


Face to Face bullying is much harder to prevent and stop, but if you are a simple on-looker or passerby, you can help out by taking the victim away from the scene and standing up for them; tell the bully that what they are doing is wrong — and even though it's very difficult, keep the biting comments to yourself. As good as telling a bully off feels, it could only fuel the bully to do much worse later.

Lesser-Known Types of Bullying

Ideas that Could Change Things at Van Meter School

Included in the source list there is a link that will take you to a site with an article, explaining that some schools partook in setting up a special site where students and parents could report bullying anonymously and publicly if they chose. After going over some of the pros and cons involving the site, there could be a problem with abuse of the program by the 'funnier' portion of the student body.


Instead of brushing off bullying with a "Boys will be boys," or "Girls will be girls," we could take a different approach. Van Meter School could introduce a policy that does not tolerate threatening teasing and harassing; nip the harassment in the bud — before it becomes bullying! With this policy, though, students who are being bullied also need to pull their weight to make it work, which is where we would like to propose a time frame. Give the victim 2-3 days after the bullying takes place to report it, after that though, you can tell them that it is not in your power to control anymore. Give the victim time to decide whether or not they really want to approach authority about it, but also give school authority a chance to not have to deal with petty things that the victim and 'bully' could figure out themselves.

This way, when the school authority is bothered, they will be able to see that the issue at hand is worth dealing with, instead of sending the victim away to be bullied some more until they involve parents and/or police.


Have gym meetings once or twice a year with the whole student body, where you explain the harm that comes with bullying, and the consequences of being a bully. Gym meetings really work, because after discussing the issues, we are all refreshed and look out for it a lot more. The main issue with bullying is that some people just don't care when they walk by and see it, and we need to change that.

Sources

Lissau, Russell . "Some schools let kids, parents anonymously report bullying online." Daily Herald. Paddock Publications, 30/9/13. Web. 15 Jan 2014. <http://www.dailyherald.com/article/20130930/news/709309947/>


Muscari, Mary. "How Can I Help Teens Who are Victims of Bullying."Medscape Multispecialty. WebMD LLC, 25/10/10. Web. 15 Jan 2014. <http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/579988>


"The Need For Attention." Bullyonline. N.p., n.d. Web. 15 Jan 2014. <http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/attent.htm>


Gordon, Sherri. "6 Types of Bullying." Bullying.about. about.com, n.d. Web. 15 Jan 2014. <http://bullying.about.com/od/Basics/a/6-Types-Of-Bullying.htm>