My Child is Gifted

An Informational Bulletin for Parents of Gifted Learners

We are altogether too easily deceived by the time-worn argument that the gifted student, 'the genius' perhaps, will 'get along somehow without much teaching. The fact is, the gifted... and the brilliant... are the ones who need the closest attention of the skilful mechanic. – W. Franklin Jones, Ph. D.

Every parent hopes for their child to be smart and to excel in school, but sometimes parents just don’t know what to do with a child who is especially exceptional. Keeping him or her challenged, interested, and engaged can be tough.

Gifted kids are a unique and challenging group - for teachers and for parents. They view the world through an entirely unique lens, one that is best summed up in one word. Intense. This intensity refers to how gifted individuals approach life. At its best, intensity is the driving passion that enables some people to achieve amazing things - in any domain. But at its worst, it is the turmoil that has the power to consume these same individuals from time to time as they learn how to manage that aspect of their personality.* Intensity is not a bad thing in and of itself. Intensity is passion, the kind of passion we use to create.

To try and help parents and children better understand and embrace the intensity that comes with being gifted, and to understand the wonderful aspect of what it means to be gifted in the first place, Mr. Kleinberg and Mrs. Klein, at Jasper Middle School, have developed this digital bulletin just for you!

*Christine Fonseca is the author of Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students and 101 Success Secrets for Gifted Kids. Click here to learn more about Christine and her work.


We, as teachers (and parents) of the gifted and talented, know that as the parent of a gifted and talented child, life can often seem somewhat overwhelming, so we have done the research for you, and have narrowed down some elements that we feel will be most beneficial to you in your journey. The information provided is, of course, from our research; therefore, we provide you with a reference page so that you may explore more deeply any particular topics of your specific interest. Our goal is to provide information that will help you better understand your child's asynchronous development and help guide you in your role as a parent.

Some Dos and Dont's for Raising Your Gifted Kids

Parents have usually reached the “We’re desperate!” stage by the time they seek out a person to help them with their gifted child. In fact, although all the background information on IQ scores, gifted programs, and the affective needs of the gifted is nice, what many parents really want to do is staunch the bleeding, do damage control. Their formerly bright-eyed, bushy-tailed pre-schooler has lost the spark, turned sullen, or worse, hates school. Different, but often equally troubling, some kids actually make such a good adjustment to school that they no longer seem to be learning anything new at all beyond “fitting in” skills. Many parents, like their own parents before them, figure that someone in the schools will tell them if the child is gifted; therefore, if they are the only ones thinking something is amiss, something must be wrong with them (or their kid). Fortunately, sometimes the parent has enough confidence and courage to persevere on behalf of the child despite all the apparent odds. It is a good sign if you are a parent reading this article. You have taken some important steps to learning what you can about what ails your child, and about what you might do to make it better. Here are some ideas to get you started.

Ten Suggestions for Parents of Gifted Children

Dr. James Webb, clinical psychologist and senior author of Guiding the Gifted Child, offers a list of ten suggestions for parents of gifted:

GT Kids and Behavior: Seven Strategies to Help Kids (and Parents) Cope

Typically, emotional intensity results in a range of behavioral outbursts that can be internal (including moodiness, anxiety, and depression) or external (yelling or crying, temper tantrums, and physical expressions of anger or frustration). Regardless of how a gifted child chooses to demonstrate his or her intensities, there are a lot of things parents and educators can do to help lessen the outburst and help teach their children and students coping strategies. - See more here ...

Gifted Kids at Risk: Who’s Listening?

Consider these two prevailing and paradoxical myths about gifted children and adolescents.
Myth 1: They do not have problems; somehow they can handle difficulties on their own.
Myth 2: Some of their characteristics are perceived as pathological.

To dispel such misconceptions, we must better understand the gifted: their intellectual and personality characteristics, the manifestations of high ability, and the specific problems and issues they face.

- Read this entire article here

Parenting Lessons

As we begin another year, we tend to reflect on the past. Though I find the “should haves,” “could haves,” and “wish I hads,” a waste of energy, I do have some constructive thoughts to share from parenting my own brood. I wish I knew then that… - Read full article here...

48 Essential Links for the Parents of Gifted Children

These organizations help gifted students and their parents get the education, emotional support, and guidance they need to grow up happy and well-adjusted. (Click here)

Top Blogs about Gifted Children, Gifted Education, and Parenting

There are so many great blogs about gifted children, adolescents and adults, each of which provide a somewhat different perspective.

These blogs are written by teachers, parents, therapists, and researchers. They describe parenting dilemmas, personal triumphs and struggles, and research-based strategies that work. While there are also many wonderful websites, books, and blogsites specifically geared toward gifted education strategies, the blogs listed below were selected because of their focus on the social and emotional aspects of giftedness, parenting dilemmas, or advocacy.

Enjoy! (Click Here)

Researchers: Tom Kleinberg & Tonya Klein, Educators of the Gifted and Talented-Jasper Middle School

This digital bulletin is solely for informational purposes. The intended audience is the parents of those identified gifted and talented students. We hope you find the information useful, and if you have particular interests that are not covered here, please feel free to email either of us and we will address those. Please explore some of the additional links located under the "Resource" tab. We hope you find this information useful, and ENJOY!