A Development of Aggression
Types of Aggression
Aggression is placed by Beck, 2010, in two general categories proactive and reactive aggression (p.269). Understanding these forms of aggression is important for parents because as a child grows their interactions with peers increase as does the levels of aggression. Majority of the research according to Beck, 2010 identifies the following forms of aggression:
1. Physical aggression - inflicting harm on others through physical injury. Some examples include kicking, pushing, biting, and punching others.
2. Verbal aggression - threating physical harm, teasing, making fun of others, and name calling.
3. Relational aggression - interfering with peer relationships, socially exclude relationships, gossip and friendship manipulation.
Bullying can take on many of these traits. Learning to identify and deal with aggression is some of the most important information a parent can obtain to help them understand the development of child relationships.
Physical aggression starts at a early age.
Relational aggression can be a form of peer bullying.
Many children use verbal temper tantrums to even bully their parents or siblings.
Are parents to blame?
Parenting skills influence bullying.
Did you teach your child it is ok to hit others?
You can hit them but they can not hit others?
Do as I say and not as I do.
Is yelling your main form of communication?
Point out the problems is hard to do if you are the problem.
Peer communication lesson?
Teaching your child to communicate with peers, teachers and other adults will help them throughout life.
Is yelling your main form of communication?
Cyberbullying the 21st Century form of Bullying
The advanced changes in technology has taken bullying to a whole new level. Kids find it easy to hid behind a computer by using social media as a tool to bully others. Schools are faced weekly with disciple actions associated with Twitter, Facebook and other social media. This new form of communication is aiding young people which normally would not participate in bullying to chime in on peoples walls. The power of saying something in text on a persons wall is empowering and causes people to write things they normally would not say in person. As a parent you need to be educated on this new form of bullying. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ (DHHS) anti-bullying website reports 1 in 3 U.S. students say they have been bullied at school or online. Parents, educators and kids can prevent cyberbullying. Together, they can explore safe ways to use technology. Know the facts to protect your child from cyberbullying:
Be Aware of What Your Kids are Doing Online
1. Communication is the key! Talk with your kids about cyberbullying.
- Know the sites your kids visit (check computer history)
- Tell your kids that you will review the history do not hide the fact you will check up on them.
- Try out the devices they use. Add them as friends or follow them on social media.
- Ask an adult friend to monitor their actions online.
- Encourage your kids to tell you immediately if they are being bullied.2.
2. Establish rules about appropriate use of computers, cell phones, and other technology. Make the rules simple and verbalize the punishment but follow through with consequences.
3. Make sure your child are aware of school rules associated with social media. The growing problem of cyberbullying has caused most school systems to develop rules for media.
4. Report cyberbullying! If a bully stops bothering you and your child chances are they have just found someone new to harass.
Inform your child to:
-- Never respond back to a bully
-- Block the bully
-- Keep evidence do not delete messages
-- Report the bully to the social media site provider
-- Report acts of violence to Law enforcement
-- Report issues to school officials. Most schools have anti-bullying policies in place and
most cases of bullying online come from interaction between peers in a school
Your relationship and the importance of parent / child communication is the most important way to prevent your child from being a victim or a bully themselves.
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