Month 7 - Sunday, April 8 @ 5
Our Next Gathering - THIS Sunday, April 8
- Edward 404-456-9063
Let's try this again - Bring Something Italian!
What we ask of you is this...
- Come Consistently to our gathering on the 2nd Sunday evening of EVERY month. Block this time on your calendars for the rest of the year...yes, we believe it is THAT important.
- Arrive on time each week so we can begin at 5pm and end at 7pm.
- Come prepared with your homework (below) completed. Homework will take you 20-30 mins per day. (There are only 5 days per month.) It is suggested that you do one day a week with one week having 2 days’ work.
- Do not skip ahead to days or sections.
- Do not cram all the homework in right before coming next month.
- Bring some yummy food to share. (see the theme below)
- Register online every month, and include the ages of your children coming, so we can prepare. Just complete the form below.
If you have not been able to come to any of our last 3 meetings, please work to complete Chapters 1, 2, 3 & 4 to prepare for our next meeting. (Each Chapter takes about 45 mins to complete)
I have attached a link below that will take you to the homework pages so you can complete them prior to our next meeting or you may choose to purchase your own workbook (recommended). If you purchase a workbook, please purchase one for each person attending the study. Sharing is not recommended...:)
Month 7 Homework is coming...
Kids Movie Night (Age 4-5th Grade)
Your kids will eat with us, then parents will take their kids to the 252Kids Worship Room. There will be designated teens to watch them, as well as an adult supervisor.
If you have any movie requests, please let Edward know.
There is a $3 per child donation requested when you drop your child off.
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, March 11
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, February 11
4 BATTLES A LEADER CAN AVOID WHEN STARTING A SMALL GROUP
So – you are ready to start a small group! And in your mind you see it going so well -every member in the group connecting and sharing in deep and meaningful ways, growing deeper in relationship with God and each other every week, nary a problem or complaint… right??
No.. nope..nada… the truth is we all know better than to expect a trouble-free experience when starting a new group. We know problems will arise, but wouldn’t it be nice to know some things we could do in advance to prevent some of the major ones?
Here are some things to remember:
1.) Share the vision and culture of the group with the group.
If your people don’t know the purpose and goal of the group they may end up with unmet expectations or disappointments. For example, if you don’t make it known at the onset the expectation is that as the group gets bigger it will eventually branch, you may find people are distressed when it happens. It is also important to establish some guidelines and boundaries within the group, if you don’t you might find one person dominating the conversation, or another person sharing sensitive information with people outside of the group.
2.) Don’t believe the lie that you have to be the ‘expert’
Don’t go into this with a teacher/expert mentality! What we mean by that is – don’t imagine your life has to be perfectly in order to lead these people. Or that you have to be the fount of all information and knowledge! If you don’t know the answer to a question, say so! Let them know that you will get the answer for them before next week. Show them your life isn’t perfect. People would rather follow a leader that is always real,than one that is always ‘right’.
3.) Don’t try to do everything in the group all by yourself.
So many group leaders try to wear all the hats – leader, host home, snack bringer, discipler, etc. No one person could or should be expected to carry the whole weight of the responsibility on their shoulders. In fact – it is actually better for both the group and the leader if responsibilities are shared. Involve as many people as possible with all levels of responsibility. From being a Host home or bringing snacks – to one on one discipling or leading the group in your absence. This involvement creates buy in, and people are more likely to attend consistently and even invite others if they have a sense of ownership in the group. And in addition to this, it also helps prevent burn-out among leaders – which is always a win!
4.) Don’t fill your group with people you are comfortable with.
Diversity is a great attribute for a small group. Don’t make the mistake of going out and finding all the people you have an affinity with to populate your group. If you do, your group may miss the opportunity to see things from a broader perspective. Your group should include people at different stages of spiritual growth, with different backgrounds and different needs. This will allow the opportunity for your discussions and interactions to be deeper and richer – and provide a place for members to put the fruit of the spirit into action. And it will help you create a place where the unchurched, the lost, and the seeking might feel safe and welcome.
Small Group Questions:
How To Be An Intentional Leader
Did you play any sport as a child?
Who taught you your favorite sport or hobby?
How well did your instructor know what they were teaching?
As a Christian, have you benefited from an intentional leader?
Pray for each other
Where do you need to strengthen your Biblical worldview?
Which of the statements from this week would you struggle to explain to a new believer?
Summarize in one sentence what intentional leadership is.
What is the difference in program thinking and person thinking in making disciples?
What does Ephesians 4:12 show us about a leader’s role? (Pg 86)
List three things a coach could look for when evaluating a team.
What are the two keys to knowing your players/disciples? (Pg 84)
Why is it important to distinguish between our part, God’s part and the disciple’s part?
Share with the group the rankings you gave yourself for the three roles Jesus used with His disciples: teaching, modeling, challenging.
What changes do you need to make to spend more time with those God has placed in your life who need to be discipled?
What can you do to create more relationship with those you are discipling?
Share how you evaluated yourself and how your friend evaluated you in the areas of awareness, responsiveness, and empathy.
Which of the three do you need to work on.
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, January 14
HOW RELATIONAL IS YOUR SMALL GROUP ENVIRONMENT?
I’m sure you have heard at least one story of someone who stopped going to their small group because they never felt ‘connected’ with the people there.
And you have probably also heard from someone else with the exact opposite experience, that is thriving in their small group.
Being in a small group together can enable relationships to go deeper, and transparency to occur. But sometimes people in small groups don’t seem to connect, and the group may have a high turnover rate. Why is it that some small groups work and other small groups don’t seem to? Is it just a matter of chance or personal chemistry, or are there some components that can cause a small group to be more successful, and even foster relationships?
The good news is, there are some components that work together to help make a small group more effective! One very important one is the atmosphere or ‘environment’ of the group. An intentional relational environment can set the stage for deeper, more open conversations between group members. This kind of environment can provide a safe place to be transparent and vulnerable. And as trust and grace grow deeper, this kind of environment also encourages accountability and spiritual growth and can be a place for discipleship to begin.
In a relational environment, the people involved are doing life together with a kingdom mindset. The relationships go beyond just their weekly time together in the small group. They begin doing things together outside of group – become involved in each other’s lives. They move from strangers to friendship. These relationships press into areas of privacy, transparency, and vulnerability. This is the kind of environment where discipleship happens, and this is the kind of environment being talked about in the following passage:
“They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and miraculous signs were done by the apostles.” – Acts 2:42-43 NIV
So – what makes a Relational Environment for Discipleship?
You may be looking at the groups you are leading or are a part of and wonder how you can tell if the environment is conducive to deeper relationship. Is your group effectively modeling a relational environment? Here are 10 questions to help you gage the relational level of your group environment.
Rate your group’s strength or weakness on each of the components listed below using this scale:
5. Outstanding Strength
2. Needs Improvement
1. Needs Significant Improvement
1. Is your small group a safe place to show compassion and pray for one another?
2. Does your group model transparency? Sharing your lives openly and honestly, including struggles?
3. Does your group maintain confidentiality? Do things shared within the group remain there?
4. Is your group good at listening? Do you focus on people when they talk, actually care about what they are saying?
5. Patience – Do you allow awkward silences to occur to give each person the opportunity to share?
6. How big is your group? Do you keep it at 4-12 people so that each person can be known?
7. If struggle or sickness arises in a member’s life, is your group there to help out both physically and emotionally?
8. Mutual Accountability – Do you lovingly and courageously address behaviors that do not glorify God?
9. Is your group encouraging? Do you celebrate each other’s victories and thank group members for sharing?
10. Consistency – Do you meet with your group regularly? Personal relationships do not happen from a distance.
Now add up all your points.
Your group is doing well at modeling a relational environment! Take a look at the things that you didn’t score a 5 on to see what you may need to work on.
Your group might have a few things to work on, but you are well on your way! Get together with someone else in the group and go over the things you see that need work. Talk about what the two of you can do in the group to lead the way toward making it a more relational environment.
30 points or less
You may need to take a closer look at the purpose of the group – If the goal is primarily to educate people, you may have a class rather than a small group. There is nothing wrong with a class, but it is difficult for disciple-making to happen in that atmosphere.
If your goal is to create a small group where discipleship can occur, and you have determined that your group is not as relational as you would like it to be, it is never too late to start!
Here are a few additional components that can help take relationship to the next level;
•Food – sharing food has always been a sure way to connect with others
•Homes – the best place to meet is in someone’s home; it is a great way to get to know them better
•Have fun – get together outside of your normal life group time to participate in fun activities together
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, November 12
A Disciple of Jesus Christ is one who has been Saved by faith in Jesus, who is Surrendered to being changed by Jesus, and who is Serving in the mission of Jesus.
A couple of things to note:
1. No Disciple-Shift in December
We are inviting the entire church to come together for a Christmas Dinner on the 2nd Sunday night for a night of Christmas music led by our youth band, and a vision moment for us to consider 2018.
2. Changes in January
AWANA and Youth Service will continue Wednesdays from 6:30-8
Rusty and Sue will not be teaching Precept classes until next Fall
Brandon and Stephenee will be teaching a coed Bible study on Wednesdays
We will begin 6 NEW Small Group Disciple-Shift groups on Wednesday nights
**Disciple-Shift Group Link will be on first Wednesday in January.
Monthly Disciple-Shift Gathering will continue the 2nd Sunday night of each month
1. Can anyone name the stages of growth for a disciple?
2. Someone answer this question: “Where do you think you would be if you were completely ignorant of God’s desire to restore a relationship with you?”
3. John 3:3 says, “No one can see the kingdom of God unless he is born again”
4. What were we like when we were first born to our biological mothers?
5. What similarities can you think of between our first birth and being born again?
6. What are the characteristics of the Spiritually dead?
7. What are the characteristics of the Spiritual Infant?
8. What are the characteristics of the Spiritual Child?
9. What are the characteristics of the Spiritual Young Adult?
10. What are the characteristics of the Spiritual Parent?
11. What are some of the typical phrases used by disciples at each of these stages?
12. What are some of the needs of a disciple at each spiritual stage?
13. Which of these stages applies to you?
14. What are some ways you can take the next step in your spiritual growth?
15. Lone Rangers either give up or fall into sin because they are isolated. Without the encouragement and accountability of others, our health as a disciple is at risk. Even the most mature disciple can get discouraged. Knowing this, what should a spiritually mature parent work to maintain?
16. Name some of you family, friends, or acquaintances who are spiritually dead. Now pray specifically for each of those…
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, October 8...
The definition of a Disciple according to Matthew 4:19...
Follow Me – A disciple is one who knows and follows Christ
And I will make you – A disciple is being changed by Christ
Fishers of men – A disciple is committed to the mission of Christ
The material talks about head, heart, and hands. We redefined this to heart, head, hands…
Crossroads definition of a Disciple:
A Disciple of Jesus Christ is one
who has been Saved by faith in Jesus,
who is Surrendered to being changed by Jesus, and
who is Serving in the Mission of Jesus.
Small Group Questions
1. Please pass this sheet around and ask each person to write their name on the back.
2. Are you struggling to get the assignments finished? Why?
3. Do you have a regular rhythm in your interactions with the Lord? Describe it if you do.
4. Share with the group one area of strength in your time spent with Jesus and one area of weakness.
5. What is a danger of church leaders not knowing the definition of “disciple”?
(Leaders: You can’t evaluate whether or not you are a disciple, AND you can’t really help others understand what one is.)
6. On day 1 how did you define what a disciple is?
Ask someone to read Luke 5:1-11
7. On day 1, what areas did you identify that need to change to match Jesus’ definition of His disciples?
Ask someone to read Luke 19:1-10
8. What did the story of Zacchaeus on Day 4 say about Jesus’ mission?
9. All month we have been learning that “Follow Me,…and I will make you fishers of men” is the Biblical definition of what a disciple is. Can someone explain it in your own words?
10. What is the heart-level change that must take place in a disciple of Jesus?
11. What is the head-level change?
13. As you considered your schedule, time, and money on Day 5, where did you place your “X” as someone who follows Jesus, is being changed by Jesus, and is committed to the mission of Jesus?
14. Share about the one action, on Day 5, that you took that would move you ahead in growing as a disciple…
15. Take time, if you have it, to hear and ask those who want to, to pray specifically for others in your group.
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, September 10
The church in America is in decline. Agree or disagree?
At the heart of this problem, good Christian people are lost as to what to do.
That’s why we are here…small group discussion questions...
Someone read Matthew 28:18-20 aloud:
1. Someone tell us about a ministry that you are a part of. What role did you play in that ministry?
2. Someone tell us about your most meaningful ministry experience and why it was meaningful.
3. Someone tell us why you are participating in this study and what you hope to get out of it.
Pray: for God to meet the needs of those participating in this study and to give them what they hope to receive.
4. If Christianity is a team sport and the church is Christ’s team, what would winning be?
5. What is the church supposed to be and do to win?
6. What part is the church commanded to play in making disciples?
7. Someone tell me, what is your personal role, as commanded in God’s Word, in helping the church make disciples?
8. Someone tell the group about an encounter you had sharing with someone about the church’s first priority of making disciples. Were you challenged to defend this point of view?
9. What does Jesus’ prayer in John 17 (day 2 – pg 12) say about His expectation for us to make disciples?
10. How would you know when your work with someone you were discipling was complete?
11. How can our work of making disciples be completed and yet the process continue on until Jesus returns?
12. What 3 reasons did you give (day 3, pg 15 - #2) for why the church in America is not overcoming the Enemy?
Someone read 1 Corinthians 12:14-20 aloud…
13. Turn to day 5, page 22 in your homework. Someone tell me where you placed an “X” on the field diagram? Why do you think you have spent most of the last 2 years in that place?
14. Do the people in the stands normally know every detail that is happening in the game? Why do you think they are the most vocal about what they think?
15. Can a coach on the sidelines know how to coach without ever playing the game? Why not?
16. Look again at Matthew 28:18-20. How has your understanding of making disciples changed?
Close your group with prayer. Ask for the members of the group to pray for one another.
Notes from our meeting on Sunday, August 13
Here are the notes from our last meeting, to review or in case you could not make it…
There are 12 Shifts we will cover in 12 months…
1. A shift in your heart…a strong desire to make true disciples of Jesus
2. A shift in understanding what a disciple is
3. A shift in thinking about the levels of discipleship
4. A shift in the process of making disciples
5. A shift in leadership (unintentional to intentional)
6. A shift in environments
7. A shift in the creating a reproducible process
8. A shift in helping new believers become believers
9. A shift in from teacher to relational connections
10. A shift in thinking about ministry
11. A shift in helping people move to maturity
12. A shift in considering small group
Our Vision (what we are trying to accomplish)
To make disciples of Jesus Christ who make disciples of others
Our Mission (how we are fulfilling our vision)
CrossRoads Baptist Church exists to glorify God by making disciples of Jesus Christ who love the Lord, love each other and serve with urgency
Our Core Values
Core – the most essential part of anything
Value – Relative worth, merit or importance, that which is highly esteemed.
- Faithful Prayer
Believers are to be a people devoted to prayer; apart from Christ we can do nothing.
Acts 2:42; Colossians 4:2
Are you faithful in prayer?
- Biblical proclamation
Life Change happens from hearing the message of Christ through preaching and teaching the Word of God.
Romans 10:17; Matthew 7:24
Who are you teaching?
- Authentic Worship
God is worthy of all praise. Worship entails offering our bodies as a living sacrifice, which means dedication of the total person to living for God’s honor.
Psalm 96:1-9; 145:1-3; Romans 12:1
Does your life bring honor and praise to God?
- Sacrificial Giving
Giving to God the first portion of your time, money, resources and giftedness to show that He has first place in your life and that you know He is the Source of all you have. It is not equal giving, but equal sacrifice!
Proverbs 3:9,10; Malachi 3:10; Acts 2:45; 2 Corinthians 9:7
Does your giving show that God is first in your life?
- Local and Global Disciple Making
God’s call to all believers and to the Church is to make disciples of all nations.
Matthew 28:19; Acts 1:8; 2 Timothy 2:2
How are you making disciples?
- Loving Faith Family
Care, accountability, fellowship, prayer, Bible study and outreach all happen best within the environment of our Life Groups. Believers become connected together in love and unity. This creates an environment for true discipleship to take place.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12; John 13:34,35; 17:20-23; Acts 2:42-47
Are you faithfully a part of a Life Group?
- Mobilized Membership
Our spiritual gifts have maximum impact when believers are being trained and equipped for ministry. Developing new leaders and assimilating new believers into the body of Christ and into ministry are vital in mobilizing members to making disciples.
Where are you serving?
As you can see, we have a God-sized vision for our church and for our community!
We separated into table groups and discussed the following questions…
Why are we here tonight?
Where do you see us (as a church body) going?
Do you think you have anything to learn about what discipleship really is?
What are the successes of our church? Are things going well?
What things do you look at when you think of a church being “successful”?
Where do we need improvement as a church?
Where do we need improvement as individuals in the church?
What do you see as the greatest hindrance to the success of the church in America?
What are some steps we need to take to improve?
You are here tonight because we think that you are a discipler and we want to coach you through how we as a church are going to fulfill our church’s Vision.