Tips for Control your Temper

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Domestic Violence effects are seen in all areas of health care and the legal system. All of these professions have a role to play in detecting and supporting victims and offenders. Statistics in 2006 presented by the Texas Department of Public Safety and the Texas Council on Family Violence bring the effects to light: 186,868 family violence incidents occurred, 120 women were killed by their intimate partner, and 12,356 adults and 16,968 children received shelter from abusive relationships.

How can you make a difference?

  1. Volunteer your time to local shelters around the community.

  2. Educate victims about resources available: National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), Local Shelters, Police Departments, and Legal Support.

  3. No matter what the presenting problem is, always explore the possibility of violence.

  4. Look for behavioral indicators of abuse such as: reluctance to speak or disagree with other partner, irrational jealousy, denial or minimizing violence, self-blame for others violence, etc.

  5. Educate individuals that commit violence to seek out Battering Intervention and Prevention Programs.

  6. Educate individuals that commit violence about the role that power/control, coercion, threats, economic manipulation, male/female privilege, intimidation, emotional abuse, isolation, minimizing, denying, blaming, and substance addiction play in violent relationships.

  7. Help offenders understand the impact of violence on their children and the possibility of teaching them that violence is a normal way of life.

Power and Control

Domestic Violence is not just physical violence.There are eight types of violence that are driven by Power and Control.

  • Intimidation

  • Coercion and Threats

  • Emotional Abuse

  • Isolation

  • Minimizing, Denying, and Blaming

  • Using the Children

  • Economic Abuse

  • Male Privilege

All of these tactics are used to influence an intimate partner. Our society defines violence in physical terms and we have to challenge this definition to stop the cycle of violence.

How do you tame your temper?

A Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in anger management and domestic violence, Nathaniel Smith, M.A., NCC, LPC-S, has helped hundreds of clients tame their temper. Nathaniel is certified by the Texas Department of Criminal Justice to run group sessions for offenders with anger issues. His warm, compassionate approach and extensive experience in the field of anger make him an authoritative guide in leading readers gently toward taming their temper.

Nathaniel has a new book called Taming Your Temper. This book will not teach you that anger itself is bad. Anger is normal! It’s only when your feelings turn into destructive behavior that anger becomes an issue. Stop being at the mercy of those feelings. If you work through the 36 concrete strategies and exercises inside these pages, you can learn to act in healthier ways, to cut down on aggression, to live calmly.


  • Identify your underlying core beliefs, anger triggers, and cycles.

  • Recognize your physical responses to rising anger and how to reverse them.

  • Learn to HALT and cool down before you act.

  • Stay away from situations that trigger your anger.

  • Uncover feelings of frustration, pain, and fear and develop alternative ways to express them.

  • Choose to focus on what makes you happy.

Using all these tools and more, you Can Tame Your Temper.

Resource :

Mental Health Education, Mental Health CEUs online