The type directly relates to the developement of a child.
Permissive Indulgent Parents
A permissive indulgent parent is a parent that acts more as a best friend than a parent.
- Generally the permissive indulgent parent will "coddle" their child, rather than discipline them.
- Affects their maturity level, as well as their self-confidence over time.
Coddling at a Young Age
Parents usually inhibit a child's development by rocking, hugging, and singing their child to sleep.
- This prohibits the child from learning any self-soothing skills.
- Children need to experience disappointment in order to problem solve--> when a parent fixes everything for them, the child will never learn
- Children can often lose their own identity at the hand of coddling parents
Spoiled children are usually associated with permissive indulgent parenting.
- They result from overindulgence of toys, extension of bedtimes, or even treats late at night.
- Unrealistic expectations of life.
- Sense of entitlement to things in life.
- Lack the basic abilities to make their own decisions
Children Need to Fail
"Why Parents Need to Let their Kids Fail" by Jessica Lahey
- Student found guilty of plagiarism.
- Discovered the mother actually wrote the paper for her daughter, who was too "stressed out" to write it herself.
- Child was given a 0 and was forced to rewrite the assignment.
- Again, spoiled children rely heavily on their parent's aid.
A helicopter parent is a warm and responsible parent that provides firm control and maturity demands.
- "Authoritarian Parents"
- Want to have the perfect child, perfect life.
- Schedule all aspects of their child's life
College-educated parents are more likely to give their children better opportunities.
- Safest neighborhoods
- Enroll their children in the best schools
- Best sports teams
- Usually obsessive-inhibiting the children from doing things themselves
Time to Let Go
An effect of helicopter parenting is that children lack maturity, self-reliance, and self-esteem.
- Children constantly seek praise for decisions made on their own-lack of self-confidence.
- Children need a sense of independence.
- They have to learn how to solve their own problems.
Jefferson vs. Adams
Jefferson-pushed his children to be all that they COULD be.
- Making it so their kids "stayed interesting" to the parents.
- When his child would fail, he/she would be ignored, not punished.
Adams-gave children strict guidelines
- When they failed, they were punished.
- Driven by criticism and the fear of failure.
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