Parenting

The type directly relates to the developement of a child.

Permissive Indulgent Parents

A permissive indulgent parent is a parent that acts more as a best friend than a parent.

  • Generally the permissive indulgent parent will "coddle" their child, rather than discipline them.
  • Affects their maturity level, as well as their self-confidence over time.

Coddling at a Young Age

Parents usually inhibit a child's development by rocking, hugging, and singing their child to sleep.

  • This prohibits the child from learning any self-soothing skills.
  • Children need to experience disappointment in order to problem solve--> when a parent fixes everything for them, the child will never learn
  • Children can often lose their own identity at the hand of coddling parents

Spoiled Children

Spoiled children are usually associated with permissive indulgent parenting.

  • They result from overindulgence of toys, extension of bedtimes, or even treats late at night.
  • Unrealistic expectations of life.
  • Sense of entitlement to things in life.
  • Lack the basic abilities to make their own decisions

Children Need to Fail

"Why Parents Need to Let their Kids Fail" by Jessica Lahey

  • Student found guilty of plagiarism.
  • Discovered the mother actually wrote the paper for her daughter, who was too "stressed out" to write it herself.
  • Child was given a 0 and was forced to rewrite the assignment.
  • Again, spoiled children rely heavily on their parent's aid.

Helicopter Parents

A helicopter parent is a warm and responsible parent that provides firm control and maturity demands.

  • "Authoritarian Parents"
  • Want to have the perfect child, perfect life.
  • Schedule all aspects of their child's life

Educated Parents

College-educated parents are more likely to give their children better opportunities.

  • Safest neighborhoods
  • Enroll their children in the best schools
  • Best sports teams
  • Usually obsessive-inhibiting the children from doing things themselves

Time to Let Go

An effect of helicopter parenting is that children lack maturity, self-reliance, and self-esteem.

  • Children constantly seek praise for decisions made on their own-lack of self-confidence.
  • Children need a sense of independence.
  • They have to learn how to solve their own problems.

Jefferson vs. Adams

Jefferson-pushed his children to be all that they COULD be.

  • Making it so their kids "stayed interesting" to the parents.
  • When his child would fail, he/she would be ignored, not punished.

Adams-gave children strict guidelines

  • When they failed, they were punished.
  • Driven by criticism and the fear of failure.

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