Counselor's Gazzette

May-June 2014

Cinco de Mayo Celebration @ Central Elementary

Bullied every day for years because of his lisp, Josh Yandt and his family moved to London, Ontario, in 2011. Determined not to be “put in a box” by his new classmates, the remarkable young man dramatically changed the trajectory of his life with one small idea: he would hold open the door at school each day.
A child who repeats the first grade is more likely than any others to drop out of school. The most effective way to prevent this is to intervene early, and to ensure that the child is ready and able to cope with the transition into elementary school. The setting needs to be prepared to meet the developmental needs of children who come there to learn. Read more

Communication Tips for Parents & Educators

Be available for your children

  • Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what's happening in their lives.

  • Learn about your children's interests — for example, favorite music and activities — and show interest in them.

  • Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.


Let your kids know you're listening

  • When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.

  • Listen to their point of view, even if it's difficult to hear.

  • Let them complete their point before you respond.

  • Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.


Respond in a way your children will hear

  • Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.

  • Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it's okay to disagree.

  • Focus on your child's feelings rather than your own during your conversation.


Remember:

  • Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation, such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings or help solving a problem.

  • Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems and work through difficult feelings.

  • Talk to your children — don't lecture, criticize, threaten or say hurtful things.

  • Kids learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, don't feel you have to step in. *

*Source: APA