EQ: How can forced marriages be prevented?
- In the Afghan countryside, many local farm families borrow money from the Taliban
- Most families repay the Taliban with opium they grow
- Soldiers from the Afghan government come to these places and destroy the opium fields and leave many families with next to nothing to give back
- When the families are unable to give opium as payment, they are forced to give their family members (in most cases the kids).
- Sometimes the Taliban holds the family member hostage until the parents pay back the money, but in other cases they (children, usually) are married off, never to be seen again.
- Some families do try to flee but very rarely make it because of the Taliban soldiers stationed everywhere.
Too Young To Wed
But, after the girl had moved in with her husband, if she ever went against what her husband said, or did something without asking, she could harmed and/or punished. In many cases, when the people are taking her to her husband, they cover the girls face so if they try to run away they would have nowhere to go but back to where they were taken.
The marriage almost always results in the girls removal from school. Some even become pregnant as young as 14 and have to abandon any hobbies/jobs that have when that baby is born, just so the girl can focus only on caring for the child and doing household jobs.
The most common reason to give up children is to settle debts for families.
There are many reasons why parents arrange for a child to be wed off. Sometimes they bellieve it would make a better life for the child, so they can maybe live in better conditions, eat better food, have better shelter, ect.
Religion plays a large part in these arranged marriages as well, making it either stricter and more abusive, or more freelance.
In some places, such as Iraq, it is very common to be arranged to marry a cousin or family member of some sort
“I tried to kill myself... I didn’t want to get married, but I was forced to get engaged.”
This sentence is despairingly similar to those you would hear from many other victims of forced marriage. Many of the girls try to take their own life rather than be wed, and/or once they've been wed. Some of these girls are so terrified of punishment that even if they'd done something as simple as not make the tea hot enough, they'd rather commit suicide. An example of one of these extreme punishments is, in one case, a woman had gone out to visit her mother, but without checking with her husband, and when she arrived back the husband was so infuriated that he threw acid in the woman's face.
Stopping Forced Marriages
- increase public awareness
- reduce gender-based violence
- Have more governments do the conditional cash transfer (if it is affordable, which in most countries where forced marriage is, the government is either greedy or poor and could/would not do this) A conditional cash transfer is where they provide families with a small payment upon the birth of a girl if the girl would still remain unmarried by the age of 18
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