Suicide Prevention/Acts of Kindness
The Link Between Prevention and Outcome.
Myths Regarding Suicide
Talking about suicide is a bad idea because it may give someone the idea to try it.
Suicide can be an uncomfortable topic. Often, people who are feeling suicidal don’t want to worry or burden anyone with how they feel, so they don’t discuss it. It is a common misconception that talking about suicide will cause a person to think about it or act on it.
By asking someone directly about suicide, you give them permission to tell you how they feel. People who have felt suicidal will often say what a huge relief it was to be able to talk about what they were experiencing. Once someone starts talking they’ve got a better chance of discovering other options to dealing and coping with stress other than suicide.
People take their own life "out of the blue".
Someone who "has their act together" isn't at risk of suicide.
How do you have these conversations with younger children?
Teen Suicide: Learning to Recognize the Warning Signs
No two teenagers are alike, but there are some common reasons they consider suicide.
Many teens who attempt suicide do so during an acute crisis in reaction to some conflict with peers or parents.
How to help
If you notice any of the above warning signs in your child, you should take these steps:
Offer help and listen. Don't ignore the problem. What you've noticed may be the teen's way of crying out for help. Offer support, understanding and compassion. Talk about feelings and the behaviors you have seen that cause you to feel concerned. You don't need to solve the problem or give advice. Sometimes just caring and listening, and being nonjudgmental, gives all the understanding necessary.
Take talk of suicide seriously, and use the word “suicide.” Talking about suicide doesn't cause suicide—but avoiding what's on the teen's mind may make that teen feel truly alone and uncared for. Tell them that together you can develop a strategy to make things better. Ask if your child has a plan for suicide. If he or she does, then seek professional help immediately.
Remove lethal weapons from your home, such as guns. Lock up pills, and be aware of the location of kitchen utensils, as well as ropes, and other household items that could cause harm.
Get professional help. A teen at risk of suicide needs professional help. Even when the immediate crisis passes, the risk of suicidal behavior remains high until new ways of dealing and coping with problems are learned.
Don’t be afraid to take your child to a hospital emergency room if it is clear that he or she is planning suicide. You may not be able to handle the situation on your own.
Peer Support Can Be Effective
Link Between Prevention and Outcome
Science of Kindness
Simply put, kindness is being nice to others. As you examine kindness further, a number of important dimensions begin to unfold. Kindness is being generous with others, giving your time, money, and talent to support those who are in need. Kindness is being compassionate, which means to really be there for someone, listening intently to their suffering or just sitting with them and silently supporting them. Such compassion involves a deep concern for the welfare of others. Kindness is also being nurturing and caring to others — to enjoy doing favors for them, to take care of them, and to perform good deeds.
Kind individuals believe that others are worthy of attention and affirmation for their own sake as human beings, not out of a sense of duty or principle. There are three traits of altruistic personalities:
- Moral reasoning
- Social responsibility
Resource for Kindness Activities
Below is a website with many quotes, activities, and stories of kindness: