Same Sex Parents

Jessica Bolte, Kristin Hoffpauer,

Arielle Jarrell, & Kaitlyn Magner

Kids Of Gay Parents Speak Out - A short film from Team Angelica & Stonewall.

History & Background

  • Nadler v. Superior Court (1967), in which a California appellate court ruled that a mother’s homosexuality does not affect her parenting ability
  • In the late 1970s agencies, although they remained few at first, began to offer surrogacy to couples who could not conceive naturally.
  • 1977, the state of Florida enacted a law that prohibited adoption by homosexual couples.
  • 1986, a San Francisco court approves the first joint adoption for a lesbian couple
  • District of Columbia (1981) made amendments to its divorce laws, stating that sexual orientation may not be considered as a conclusive factor regarding child custody
  • December 1993, the U.S. Army adopts the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy, stating that homosexual soldiers were to keep partners and children with those partners a secret
  • 1997 New Jersey becomes the first state to allow joint adoption for gay couples
  • 2009, the Safe Schools Improvement Act was re-introduced to Congress to include protection for children of LGBT parents

Proposing Side

  • No different than any other families
  • The Virginia Voices of the Children amicus brief states, “Families in which LGBT parents are raising children are neither an oddity nor a rarity
  • The National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) has made it its mission to “promote educationally and psychologically healthy environments for all children and youth by implementing research based, effective programs, which prevent problems, enhance independence, and promote optimal learning”
  • The NASP believes all students and families deserve to feel welcome and included in the classroom and school community
  • Has been suggested that schools integrate learning about the LGBT community into multicultural education
  • There are three million parents from the LGBT community and altogether they have six million children of all ages
  • “I don’t understand why anyone would not think that my dads should be married. If marriage is a good thing, why would anyone oppose anything else getting married and sharing their life together? To me it seems stupid that some people can get married and others cannot. I am African-American, and I have learned in history that only fifty years ago, I could never have married a girl who is white here in Virginia. That seems odd and hateful to me.”
In My Shoes: Stories of Youth with LGBT Parents

Opposing Side

  • According to the Family Research Council, children with gay and lesbian parents are more likely “to have received welfare (IBF (Intact Biological Families) 17%; LM (Lesbian Mothers) 69%; GF (Gay Fathers) 57%), have lower educational attainment, report less safety and security in their family of origin, report more ongoing ‘negative impact’ from their family of origin, are more likely to suffer from depression, have been arrested more often, and if they are female, have had more sexual partners--both male and female”
  • According to the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network (GLESEN), 15% of LGBT parents felt that their type of family was not acknowledged and
    16% of them felt as though they could not participate in school activities
  • Parents also demeaned by students and faculty
  • 39% of students of LGBT families heard negative biased language regarding homophobic remarks by school staff
  • 28% of these students also heard negative remarks about LGBT families
  • 64% of other students have made homophobic remarks about LGBT families

Discussion Question

How do you feel after hearing this information against the LGBT community? Do you feel this information is relevant to your future students?

Media & Societal Influence

  • Honeymaid commercials
  • Hate mail via internet (Youtube, Twitter, Facebook, etc)
  • Many TV shows promote it (Modern Family, The Fosters, etc)

Discussion Question

What have you seen in the media that was either positively or negatively associated with the LGBT community?

Teacher Implications

  • Supporting all cultures and lifestyle choices
  • Not excluding those students who have LGBT parents
  • Having open communication with all parents including the LGBT
  • Being open about this lifestyle in the classroom (having supplemental material if they want to learn more)

Discussion Question

What would you do to accommodate the families of the LGBT community in your classroom?
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  • Drexler, P. (2012, May 23). Huffington Post. The Kids Are Alright: Gay Parents Raising Children. Retrieved April 20, 2014, from