Aspire's Summer Newsletter '23

This summer embrace yourself and love yourself.

This edition's topics:
  • June Pride: Allyship
  • Diversity vs. Inclusivity
  • Summer Suggestions
  • Coaching opportunities for teens and young adults.

JUNE PRIDE: How to be an Ally, all year round.

Are you unsure how to be an Ally to the LGBTQIA+ and gender-diverse community? Here are some tips:

#1. Educate yourself without asking the LGBTQIA+ community. First of all, it is not their job to educate others, and secondly, more times than not, asking may cause them to relive their trauma. There are plenty of resources to research; here are some:


The Trevor Project:



#2. Use your privilege for good. First, recognize your privilege; that should be your first work on awareness. It's difficult to understand the realities of discrimination without experiencing them first-hand. And for many, acknowledging our societal advantages (privileged) can be a challenge that often leads to an aha moment. ~Oprah Winfrey

“Recognize that you’re not responsible for building the system. But you are responsible for what you do with that knowledge, how you move on from there, and what you do with your privilege,” says Brooklyn-based licensed therapist Amelia Yankey, LCSW, who works with members of the LGBTQ community suffering from trauma.

#3. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. You will make mistakes when becoming more knowledgeable and aware of the LGBTQIA+ community. The mistake is not the issue; it is how you respond to your mistake. Simply apologize and say, "I'll do better." Then move on. Making a drama out of an apology is making the situation worse, more awkward, and unnecessary.

#4 Do more than show support on social media. When you start to become active with your support for the LGBTQIA+ community, Maybe Burke suggests you "de-center yourself from the work. Use your platforms to speak about issues but also amplify the voices of those less heard." Then, be sure to get involved and actively show your support. Find local organizations to volunteer your time with and donate to. Here are some organizations you can work with:

Gender & Sexuality Alliance:


The Ali Forney Center:

The Trevor Project:

Immigration Equality:

The Silvia Rivera Law Project:


5# Speak up for the underrepresented. The best way to encourage allyship is to start a conversation. If you hear or see something that's damaging to the LGBTQ community, gently point out the problem and use it as a teachable moment. “There is a point in advocacy where you need the people who hold the privilege to start the conversation because otherwise they [marginalized communities] don’t get heard," Burke says. As people who hold positions of privilege, it’s up to us to advocate for those whose voices are shut down. ~Maybe Burke, an award-winning artist, and educator, telling the stories that haven't been told.

Four ways to advocate for the LGBTQIA+ community:

  • Correct people if they misgender someone, even if that someone isn't in the room.
  • Speak up when a person uses slurs or insensitive and racially-charged language.
  • Promote diversity in the workplace. Update your email signature to include pronouns.
  • Show your support by wearing a Pride pin or posting a flag.

#6. Understand that "Pride Month" isn't all about a party or fun times, rainbows, and parades. Pride is commemorative of the plight of the LGBTQIA+ community, to remember Marsha Johnson, Sylvia, Rivera, Stonewall Inn and its riots, Harvey Milk, and all others who have suffered while being a voice for the community. It is about standing up against the basic human rights that are being stripped from this community. Here is the history:

Much of this article's information is derived from Oprah Daily,

Diversity and Inclusivity are important practices, not just for PRIDE Month but for all marginalized communites and for all of the time.

Diversity vs. Inclusivity

All of these topics are deep, and if you explore your feelings and question what shaped your current thought patterns and beliefs, you expand your self-awareness. When you heighten your consciousness through your awareness, you will be amazed at how you can be calm and peaceful. Exploring all of the topics below is significant to your self-awareness.
America Ferrera: My identity is a superpower -- not an obstacle | TED

How does it feel to question your fundamentals and beliefs when it comes to diversity and inclusivity?

America Ferrera is an American actress, and you may have seen her as Carmen in The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, Betty in Ugly Betty, or perhaps most recently as Amy in Superstore. She shares the challenges of being "allowed in" to the film industry.

After watching America's TED (and I encourage you to do so), you will resonate with her or better understand privilege.

Honoring us with her TED to educate people is not her job, but she did so anyway. As you watch her speak and listen to her story, it becomes clear that we have not come very far with diversity and inclusivity. Even with all of the DEI(B) in corporations, companies, and schools, it isn't easy to see the impact yet. We have a long way to go.

Verna Myers: How to overcome our biases? Walk boldly toward them

What do you think will come up for you if you were to explore your unconcious bias?

Vernā Myers is an inclusion strategist, cultural innovator, thought leader, and social commentator. She’s well-known for her high-energy keynotes, captivating insights, and ability to help people bridge differences and connect more meaningfully.

This is also a worthy watch. Verna coined the term, "Diversity is the what, and inclusivity is the how." This best helps define diversity vs. inclusion. Many people believe they are interchangeable, but they each have a different role in our language of diversity and inclusion.

Verna wrote "What if I say the wrong thing?: 25 Habits for Culturally Effective People" and "Moving Diversity Forward: How to Go from Well-meaning to Well-being."

Why Gender Pronouns Matter | Mala Matacin | TEDxHartford

Learning new language usage allows people to be seen. Pronouns are powerful.

Mala Matacin, Ph.D., is an associate professor and associate chair, and director of the undergraduate program in psychology at the University of Hartford. As a cisgender woman, she took it upon herself to educate herself about the new language of pronouns (which isn't new) so she could teach other cis-genders.

If you would like to be educated and better understand pronoun usage, gender identity, gender expression, and non-binary, then this is an important watch for you.

Mala shares with us that people who are non-binary that have no one to honor their pronouns have two and a half times the rate of attempting suicide. This number comes from The Trevor Project, a large organization that is a resource for the LGBTQIA+ and gender-diverse community. So pronouns matter. The basic act of using pronouns a person has asked you to use allows for visibility. Visibility is powerful. Pronouns are powerful.

Great Resources:

On a lighter note, this has been an intense newsletter so let's wind down with a few things all of you can do this summer.

What is going on at Aspire, LLC.?

Aspire is ramping up Coaching for Teens and Young Adults Transitioning into Their Next Chapter in Life

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Help for our Gen Zers

Our teens/young adults of today are unlike any others. Gen Zs endured quite the hiccup as they navigated the pandemic. Many of these Gen Zers moved back in with family and postponed the basics of adulting. In many households, parents/caregivers started doing things for their adult kids that they needed to experience to become independent. No judgment; it just happened. It was the pandemic, and there were no rule books! This happened everywhere. We have many teens and young adults that are behind socially and emotionally because of the time they spent isolating and not integrating and interacting with peers (in person). There has been an increase in anxious young adults, and many are feeling uncertain [often]. The confidence is just not there. If this sounds like your teen/young adult, consider coaching so they have the support they need as they move into their next transition, whether from middle school to high school, high school to college, or the workforce.

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As always Aspire also works with Adults (25+). Aspire helps those wanting guidance as they go through a life transition or in search of happines, joy or calmness and peace.

Aspire, LLC., a life coaching practice

I am always here for you! My name is Amy Jacques (she/her), and I am a certified professional coach and a certified school counselor with the state of Connecticut. My passion is helping others. I have been in the helping profession for years in different roles. Becoming a certified professional coach has been life-changing for me because of the self-awareness work that must be done to become certified. If you are looking for a coach for yourself or your teen/young adult, please visit my website, give me a call/text, or email. We will connect! Aspire, LLC., is an inclusive practice.

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