Nelsen's Daycare

By: Laura Nelsen

How to use Guidance in place of Punishment

Misunderstandings about Guidance

1.Guidance is not just reacting to problems: if your child won't sit still for 20 mins, try to cut that time down to 10 mins.
2. Guidance does not mean that they are not learning: Relationships help children in their school years and adult life.
3.Guidance is not a "sometimes thing": Do not use guidance for some things and discipline for others.
4.Guidance is not permissive discipline: Use positive statements, guidelines instead of rules.
5.Guidance is not reducible to a commercial program: Work as a team, use reflective commitment.

Guidance Practices

1. Realize that social skills are complicated and take into adulthood to fully learn: Teach social skills with a minimum of moral judgment
2. Reduce the need for mistaken behavior: Don't expect to much or to little from your child
3. Practice positive parent-child relations: Accept your child as they are not what you think they should be
4. Parent uses intervention methods that are solution oriented: Create an environment where problems can be solved peaceably
5. Parents build partnerships with teachers: Positive notes, meetings, visits
6. Parents use teamwork with other adults: Realize you can't handle all situations alone