Mrs. Barton's Counselor Corner
April 27 - May 1, 2020
Hello Giesinger Families,
Thank you for visiting my page. I hope your family has settled in to this "new normal." Please let me know if I can help in anyway. Please use this page as a resource for things that might come up for you and your family the next couple of weeks. I am always here to help. You can contact me through the Google Form link below or by email email@example.com.
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Each week there will be a Weekly Challenge. The first 2 families/student(s) to email me and answer the questions below correctly, will win a prize.
1. What are the cookies in the background called?
2. Which Thinking Error have you ever had? How do you think you could re-frame it?
3. When was a time you felt like you were being a leader?
Resilience - Re-framing Negative Thoughts and Events
Did you know there is something called a Thinking Error? I didn't but there is. Sometimes we have negative thought. Knowing that we have these and what kind they are can lead us to turning these negative thoughts into positive ones. This is called re-framing. Below are the 5 most common thinking errors and how to re-frame them.
Dwelling on thoughts is a common distortion. When you repeat negative thoughts or a bad experience over and over in your mind, you begin to lose sight of the positive things around you.
Recognize when an intrusive thought is taking over. Become intentional about stopping the thought. Replace the thought with happy thoughts. Come up with a list of things that make you happy. Start a journal of blessings and refer to it often.
When you draw conclusions that are not justified, based on limited information, you are overgeneralizing. Like the old saying goes, you are “making a mountain out of a molehill.” Overreacting to a minor issue is common. Example: I failed a quiz, so I will always fail.
Re-frame: To re-frame this negative thought pattern, focus on the big picture in life. Goal setting is one way to do this. Move on and realize that you have the power to change and do better. Be able to make mistakes and forgive yourself.
All or Nothing:
This distortion means that you see things in black and white with no gray areas. You believe that everything is exactly right or dead wrong. You think of things as a complete success or a total failure. This type of thinking sets you up for failure because it is impossible to achieve.
Re-frame: Give yourself some slack. You are only human. Nobody is perfect. Learn to be okay with navigating the gray areas of life. Remember to be flexible.
When you assume that you know the outcome before it happens or when you think you know what somebody else is thinking, you are attempting to predict the future and read minds. The problem with this type of thinking is that the assumptions are usually wrong.
Re-frame: Start assuming positive outcomes. If you imagine yourself being successful or imagine that others are thinking positively about you, you are more likely to have a good outcome. When you picture a negative outcome, it will often keep you from trying. Since you cannot possibly predict the future, try being positive and brave.
When you think that everything that happens around you is related to you somehow, you are taking things too personally. This is the feeling that people around you are behaving the way they are because they are reacting to something that you did. This is unhealthy thinking because these thoughts cause you to blame yourself for things that have nothing to do with you.
Realize that just because something happened near you, doesn’t mean that it had anything to do with you. You are not the center of the universe. Not everything is related to you. Consider that you may have nothing to do with other people’s reactions.