LA Family Support--October
Developmental Relationships: Provide Support
What does that look like?
- Navigate: Guide them through hard situations and systems.
- Empower: Build their confidence to take charge of their life.
- Advocate: Stand up for them when they need it.
- Set boundaries: Put limits in place that keep me on track.
Bottom Line: HELP them achieve tasks and complete goals!
Discussion Starters to Grow How You Provide Support
Everyone needs help from other people. It can be tricky to find a balance between having others support us and being responsible on our own.
- Who is someone you admire who encourages you to pursue your goals? What does this person do that really helps you?
- What was a recent time you struggled with a challenge? How did people in this family encourage you?
- Have people tried to help you when you didn't want it? How did you deal with that?
Discussion Starters with Other Parenting Adults*
- How do you balance doing things for your child vs. letting your child do things for themselves? How do you know when you do (or don’t) get that balance right?
- What are ways we as parents help each other navigate challenges, empower each other, advocate for each other, and set boundaries for each other? What kinds of mutual support from other parents do we most appreciate?
- How do you respond when you see your children being treated unfairly? Is it different if they’re being treated unfairly by their friends, other kids, teachers, other adults, or some larger system (such as police, or schools)?
- When has the need to support your kids changed—either because you needed to back off, or because they needed more support in some area? How did you adjust? How did that affect other parts of your relationship? How did it affect other relationships?
* These parenting adults may include your spouse or partner, extended family members, friends who are parents, or a parent group or class.