Advice from Relationship Expert
A Midsummer Night's Dream
I have read your column for years, but I never thought that I would be writing to you. I've tried going to meetings of "Women who love too much" but I'm still hurting, so I thought maybe you could help me. My problem is that the guy I love doesn't want to be in the same room with me. I try all the time to make him want me, but he loves my best friend. What can I do to make him like me? Should I change? I've been following him around constantly, but he never talks to me. What does she have that I don't? Help me please Relationship Expert!!!
Desperate Woman in Love
Thank you so much for writing to me. I am very thankful to know that people take my advice seriously. I have had many cases like yours, and I know just the cure!
First of all, you need to stop following him! Maybe even try getting over him ; go out with your friends, date new guys, eat your heart out, whatever makes you happy. You're an independent woman and you don't need a man to be happy. If you move on you can be open to any guy who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated, but trust me it isn't easy. Your heart will hurt, but its normal.
Secondly, if it is just so hard for you to get over him, tell him! Don't be a creep and follow him, but when you get the chance tell him your feelings, or try going out somewhere to talk to him. You never know maybe he could feel the same way deep down inside. On the other hand it could go differently, but trust me he'd be missing out on someone incredible.
Last of all, you should try just being friends meaning ; y'all can hangout, talk, go eat ice cream it really doesn't matter just don't date. Guys don't always love someone clingy. It might be pretty hard because you'll still want him, but sooner or later you will get over him, and find someone new. Remember go with what your heart chooses, don't stress about this boy. One day you will find your prince who will treat you like a princess. Your time will come to be happy, I promise!