Relationship Abuse Advice

By: Destiny Heidelburg

Warning signs

  • Does your partner tease you in a hurtful way & play it off as a “joke” or tell you you’re being too sensitive?
  • Does your partner call you names?
  • Does your partner act jealous of your friends, family, or co-workers or coerce you into avoiding or not spending time with them?
  • Does your partner get angry about or make you change the clothes & shoes you wear, how you style your hair, or whether or not you wear makeup & how much?
  • Does your partner check-up on you by repeatedly calling, driving by, or getting someone else to?
  • Does your partner insist on knowing who you talk with on the phone, check your call log or phone bill?
  • Does your partner blame you for his problems or his bad mood?
  • Does your partner get angry so easily that you feel like you're "walking on eggshells"?
  • Does your partner hit walls, drive dangerously, or do other things to scare you?
  • Does your partner often drink or use drugs?
  • Does your partner insist that you drink or use drugs with him?
  • http://www.newchoicesinc.org/help/DV/signs

Dating Violence Facts

  • Victims of dating abuse almost always show signs of depression.
  • Anger is one of the leading causes of dating abuse.
  • Anger escalates and leads to more serious acts of abuse and violence.
  • Indirect violence can occur, including destruction of objects and possessions.
  • Verbal violence includes name calling, threats, insults and put-downs.
  • Threats may be made against the people you love, your family, friends and even your pets.
  • Alcohol can be a contributory factor. It isn't an excuse.
  • Abusers will attempt to limit your social circle.
  • Abusers will go through text messages, emails, Facebook pages, school planners, generally invading your privacy.
  • Abusers will intimidate you.
  • Abusers will humiliate you.
  • Abusers may stalk you.
  • http://www.aaets.org/article144.htm

Causes of Domestic Violence

Treatment of Domestic violence

  1. Couples therapy
  2. Addressing the batterer
  3. Group therapy https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/domviolence/treatment/

Prevention of Domestic Abuse

Knowledge is power When it comes to preventing domestic abuse, learning to recognize the behaviors associated with intimate partner violence can be lifesaving. Most abusive partners choose, test, and prime their future victims before they ever lay a hand on them.

Don’t walk in unless you are willing to walk out When searching for a romantic match, you must make up your mind beforehand that you are comfortable ending the relationship if your needs are not met. Decide early in the process that you will never be so attached to an outcome that you end up sacrificing your principles or your safety.

Beware of isolation One control tactic used to separate victims from supporters that might otherwise identify the abuse or assist the victim is isolation, which can be accomplished by physically moving the victim to a remote location, disabling their communication devices, or turning the victim against the When searching for a romantic match, you must make up your mind beforehand that you are comfortable ending the relationship if your needs are not met. Decide early in the process that you will never be so attached to an outcome that you end up sacrificing your principles or your safety.

Watch out for isolation One control tactic used to separate victims from supporters that might otherwise identify the abuse or assist the victim is isolation, which can be accomplished by physically moving the victim to a remote location, disabling their communication devices, or turning the victim against their connections.

http://sealpress.com/2014/10/12-tips-to-avoid-domestic-violence/